ok so its now been 11 days since i noticed my female melanochromis exasperatus has been holding. I was just wondering about how long she will hold before she spits out the fry and also i have heard of some fish keepers having to help out new moms by making them release the fry... so if she doesnt release them will i have to shake her lol.. and another question about how long will a female hold anyway ....can u tell im very new to spawning fish i have always kept all male tanks in the past. any info or advice is greatly appreciated.