Hi, at this place I work at, I am getting into a lot of trouble because there is this woman who always tell the supervisor on me..Like, every move I make it is wrong to her, the way I approach things, the way I act..:help: What should I do? I might lose my job because of here..:help:
How to deal with a backstabber at work?
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Hey buddy I lost my job yesterday because a woman at my work started acting like that after I called her out on a scheme I realized she was using to steal money from the store. I told the general manager about this but he didn't seem to care. I'm beginning to think he was in on it too because he wouldn't have anything to lost, only the corporation would (its a franchise) My advise would be to be super nice to everyone else, get a good rep, and be sure to let the general manager know about the situation in a very professional manner ASAP. If the GM can see it is only this woman complaining I am sure he/she will be reasonable enough to understand the situation.
All you can do right there is let a supervisor know that this woman seems to have a lot of problems with your work, but that you can't see what you are doing wrong. Maybe someone can supervise you more, so if you are actually maing mistakes, then you'll know, and if you're doing everything right, they'll see that it is just her. Maybe they know about her attitude already and just put up with her - you could ask about her personality towards new people in the past. Maybe if this keeps happening of gets worse, you can keep a written record of each instance when she says you did something wrong but you know you were acting correctly - what you did exactly, what she said was wrong about it, the time and date. That way if something happens where it is her vs. you, you have documentation to support your point.
Or just stoop down to her level and ask her how to exactly perform every single activity, every time. If she's not going to help you, then she won't really be able to criticise you.
Or just stoop down to her level and ask her how to exactly perform every single activity, every time. If she's not going to help you, then she won't really be able to criticise you.
Why do people do these things? Sometimes it is jealosy, sometimes it is to make themselves look good, sometimes it is because they feel threatened by your being there. Or maybe you actually stink at what you do. Who knows? There is not always one right answer to fix it either. If you feel you are good at your job and her constant tattle-tailing is incorrect, you really need to make a stand and stand up for yourself. Or, you could take the offensive and tell on her all the stupid c**p she does - in a tactful way, of course so you don't sound like a crybaby. Or, you can ask her what her problem is and to cut it out. My favorite is to just smile and pretend I am perfectly content and just be nice and agreeable to everyone. (Although it is a tremendous struggle sometimes) That seems to make the other person look more miserable. They will like you better and get rid of the other.
I am sure there are other approaches to this situation but you must not sit there and take it. Even if it means your job. I know confrontation can be very scary sometimes but as long as you or the other person does not get violent, I feel it is a very liberating way to go.
I am sure there are other approaches to this situation but you must not sit there and take it. Even if it means your job. I know confrontation can be very scary sometimes but as long as you or the other person does not get violent, I feel it is a very liberating way to go.
Keep your nose clean for one, so the person doesnt have anything that has even a kernel of truth to tattle tell on you.
The way I view employees that are constantly reporting others, especially others of which I have had no problems with, is like children. I do investigate the concerns and if nothing is found to be legit, I then turn my attention to the tattle teller to see what they are trying to cover up on themselves.
My suggestion to you would be to request a meeting between your supervisor, said person, and yourself. Its not worth losing a job over cause someone doesnt know how to work with others and sort probs out for there own without running to the boss with everything. Honestly, depending on what kind of work you do, its sometimes easier to get rid of the one being reported than it is the whiner, and at the end of the day, your supervisor won't have the headache of having to listen to complaints.
Blue
The way I view employees that are constantly reporting others, especially others of which I have had no problems with, is like children. I do investigate the concerns and if nothing is found to be legit, I then turn my attention to the tattle teller to see what they are trying to cover up on themselves.
My suggestion to you would be to request a meeting between your supervisor, said person, and yourself. Its not worth losing a job over cause someone doesnt know how to work with others and sort probs out for there own without running to the boss with everything. Honestly, depending on what kind of work you do, its sometimes easier to get rid of the one being reported than it is the whiner, and at the end of the day, your supervisor won't have the headache of having to listen to complaints.
Blue
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Everybody handles backstabbing differently. No matter how old you are, some people can tell the person off while others are completely non-confrontational. Watermelon, am I right in assuming you are the non-confrontational type? If so, I commend you in asking for help as that is the most difficult first step. You have nothing to be ashamed of. But, as you know, as strangers, we can only speak from our own experiences and we do not know your situation specifically. Yes, I agree, life is too short. People should not have to spend their stress on worrying about stuff like that. So, all I can say is that there is no time like the present to become assertive. You don't have to be nasty or aggressive or violent. State the facts and get it over with. Like taking medicine, you know it will make you better it just tastes bad. If you feel like you are going to break down and cry - breathe deeply in through the nose and out through the mouth (and get away ASAP).
Confront your supervisor or the PITA and end the BS. Otherwise you will be caught in this mind game for a long time. You say your job is on the line so, really you have nothing to lose, however the gain will be self esteem and self respect - who knows you might not lose your job after all.
Confront your supervisor or the PITA and end the BS. Otherwise you will be caught in this mind game for a long time. You say your job is on the line so, really you have nothing to lose, however the gain will be self esteem and self respect - who knows you might not lose your job after all.