People that has love ones that had stroke.

nycsicktank said:

last saturday morning at 9:30 my dad was rushed to near by hospital. i was devastated. he had high blood pressure(over 200) but closely to stroke. i knew this was going to come but never thought this soon. he is 58 years old. since sat i've been by his side(the job fired me) until now. me and my dad never got along until this time, i feel really guilty for not being a good son to him. dang man, i feel like i wasted my life....

before i went home i had to talk to the doctor and so i did and heard good news, the doc said your dad will recover shortly. nothing serious but needs to take care himself alot more than before. no more drinking,smoking,yelling and coffee.

to people who has love ones who has/have stroke i will pray for you. i hope this world doesnt have something like this. its really painful to see when your love ones looking all healthy and then one day laying down in the bed not speaking to you nor looking at you.

David

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Oh David...I am so sorry to hear that. Yes, it can be super hard to have something so devastating happen to a loved one. Just be there like you are for him, it's going to be very hard on him to make such changes in his life. Expect alot of backlash at times and try your hardest not to take it personal..those are some VERY hard habits to kick there, along with the recovery it is going to be a hard journey, but one worth taking!

Please do not beat yourself up over the past, it is just that...the past, let it go honey...look to the future and what you can do to improve the relationship. It sounds as if you are heading the right direction, just as hard as it may get, stay strong.

Always remember you have us here rooting for you and your Dad...when times are tough you can always call on one of us if you need, we may not be able to be there physically but you will have all our support mentally and emotionally. When ever you need some support or just a vent to get something off your chest just do it, it will help...if you do not want to make a post for all to see there is always that little PM button you can use....and do it if you need to.

Lots of hugs to you and your Dad, do not hesitate EVER if you need something....I am sure I can speak for others on this one, we are all here for you

Gin

I hope you get along with your dad . Sorry to hear about the near-stroke

nycsicktank said:

awww gin thanks, did lady G just told me her name? =) haha i feel madd love from you :thumbsup:

hows your salty coming along? still having trouble with rock world little girl? =P

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LMAO, little girl??? The rocks well, they are there still LOL!

My Father had a stroke two and a half years ago. He has been a complete jerk since my mother died in 1993 saying us kids never have time for him and he'd not answer his phone when we'd call to 'punish' us. Then he had this stroke. My brother and I were at his house most days, helping him shop, pay his bills, get to the doctor and rehab. He was at a rehab facility for about two months after his stroke before coming home. We visited him often, talked to the doctors, followed up on his care, etc. NOW my Dad has become so kind and loving. I think he finally saw we aren't selfish monsters and we do love him. Either that or a near brush with death might make you look at life a little differently, too. I hope your Dad recovers and I hope this is the beginning of a very nice and loving relationship with your Dad like it was for our family. My father was 76 when he had his stroke and now walks with a cane and seems weak. But he is still in his own home. Please, keep us posted on your father's progress. My thoughts are with you. Hang in there. This might actually turn out to be a good thing in disquise.

Mom had a stroke in her mid 40s then a quad bypass at 49. Being 42 myself now she is constantly fussing over my sisters and I. She put it to good use though, she closed her business and began a charity for preventive cardiac care and has ended up helping many in need and educated those that didnt' realize they were at risk.

Hope your dad recovers with speed.

so sorry to hear about your dad's troubles
my grandmother had multiple strokes in the final years of her life, it was very hard to see her go through it.
a close family friend in his late 60's has had his life devastated by a stroke, it is a terrible thing. i am so glad that you father is doing better, i pray that it continues.
it seems that you now know how short life is and how we must "bury the hatchet" and love those close to us while we have them with us. you can never regret loving a parent too much, just regret not loving them enough and then they are gone...

Lady G covered exactly what I would say. I'll add my mom had a massive heart attack and required a triple bypass nearly ten years ago. If she keeps the scars covered you'd never guess it. Scary but not the end of things. Best of luck to you guys!!