FT M GBR for F GBR and Dwarf Flame Gourami to good Home

I am trying to cut some aggression out of my tank. I purchased 2 GBR's when they were still juvenile's. Well now that they have grown out I realized I missed and got 2 males. So I am looking to trade a male for a female. I also have a Dwarf Flame Gourami, same reason. 2 Male Dwarf Gourami's don't get along. So if someone has a female GBR and wants a male or someone just wants my Dwarf Flame Gourami let me know. The flame is in a QT tank right now because I came home from work today and he almost killed my dwarf gourami. The rams don't fight as bad so they are fine for now. The Gourami I want to move asap because I have fish coming thursday that need that QT tank. The rams I am going to wait until I find a trade if not just keep them. I prefer local since this would be a no money transaction it's kinda stupid to pay shipping. Plus I have never shipped a live fish and don't have any supplies to do it.

Here is the GBR with the flame in the background

Here is a better picture of the gourami. The flame is the more aggressive one and can even chase the rams sometimes so I would like to move him.

That's what I thought too. But everyone said otherwise.
http://www.aquariacentral.com/forums/showthread.php?t=198625

yeah the flame gourami is actually my most colorful fish. That second picture I submitted for July Photo of the month but I haven't seen them put it up yet.

My zip is 60169. That picture is at least a month old.

Here is some new pics of the rams. They have aggression towards each other and both have the taller first 3 spikes of the doral fin. Specifically the 3rd fin is the tallest. They get more color every day as I got them from a breeder in lindenhurst, IL as juveniles. If anyone can tell me what they are looking at when they try to figure out the rams. I have read like 10 articles on sexing rams and every one says something different. Some say the spot on the side, some say the pectoral fins, some say the dorsal fins. All I know is the cichlid breeder by my house said it's the first 3 spikes of the dorsal fins and thats the only way to tell.