My Grandmother is Ill [Archive]

petluvr

08-13-2009, 12:52 AM

I realize this may be against the TOS but I am asking anyway. My grandmother is VERY sick and is probably not going to be with the family much longer. Could everyone just say a little prayer, chant or whatever that she go in her sleep? She says she is not scared of dying she is just scared of knowing she is drawing her last breath so she wants to go while she is sleeping that way she doesn't know what is happening. I wish nothing more than for her to live forever but she has been sick for a long time and we are at the point of saying we wish her suffering would just end.

Adonism2

08-13-2009, 12:56 AM

Your family is in my prayers!

petluvr

08-13-2009, 1:01 AM

Thanks we have, as much as what is possible, came to terms with the fact that she is going to leave us anyday. I just want her to go in her sleep :(

BreezeRuehls

08-13-2009, 1:18 AM

I'm so sorry, I'll pray for you....

mel_20_20

08-13-2009, 1:23 AM

Pet, I'm so sorry you're going through this... and that your beloved Grandmother is.
I will remember you, your family, and your dear Grandmother in my prayers, and I will pray that she peacefully goes to rest in sleep.

*HUG*

msjinkzd

08-13-2009, 8:43 AM

Your grandmother and family will be in my thoughts.

coach_z

08-13-2009, 8:55 AM

i am sorry to hear...i will make sure to say a few good words for her.
-chris

lookit

08-13-2009, 9:04 AM

I'm so sorry for all your suffering. You and your granny will definitely be in my prayers.

rich311k

08-13-2009, 9:12 AM

You and your Grandma will be in my prayers.

swinneyw

08-13-2009, 9:12 AM

to lose a loved one is hard i lost my 43year old daughter in february this year she suffered more than you can imagine she died of lung cancer its hard to give up your loved ones i've already said a prayer for her and the comfort of you and your family

Somervell

08-13-2009, 9:16 AM

I'm praying for you and your family, Pet.

tonergirl

08-13-2009, 9:22 AM

You and your dear Grandmother will definitely be in my thoughts and prayers...God bless you...

beabroca

08-13-2009, 9:26 AM

{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}]
I know how hard it is to loose someone. My g-pa. died on tuesday night, my aunt found him on the floor with a phone in his hand, his death and sickness was short winded. I know this is the ideal way to go, but still hard.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Things will work out!

petluvr

08-13-2009, 11:03 AM

Thanks so much everyone. She was told this morning that she needed to go into the hospital and she said that she had been in the hospital for the last month and that she wasn't going back. She says she wants to stay at home so she can die in a familiar place.

mgarrido

08-13-2009, 11:10 AM

So sorry, your family and you are in my prayers!

excuzzzeme

08-13-2009, 2:02 PM

Sorry to hear of your Grandmother. My prayers are with you, her, and the family.

snoopy65

08-13-2009, 2:13 PM

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your grandmother.

petluvr

08-13-2009, 2:38 PM

Thanks again everyone. As I said before we have all accepted the fact the she will go at anytime however it is still VERY unsettling everytime a phone rings to hold your breath wondering if it is THE call.

Madcrawdad

08-13-2009, 2:48 PM

Sorry to hear it. I'll think some good thoughts for you and yours.

Cheech

08-13-2009, 2:49 PM

so sorry to hear, petluvr. she's in my thoughts.

mcybyk

08-13-2009, 3:45 PM

My thoughts and prayers are with you, your grandmother and your family.

Star_Rider

08-13-2009, 3:48 PM

Prayers sent

oscarluvr

08-13-2009, 3:54 PM

will say a prayer for you and your family

Dangerdoll

08-13-2009, 5:42 PM

oh Pet, what a difficult spot, so sorry to hear this.... you are all in my prayers and especially her.

bazil323

08-13-2009, 5:51 PM

I can relate very well to your situation. My aunt battled with leukemia for many years and near the end she was in and out of the hospital, sometimes staying for over a month. Finally, she was allowed to go home after nearly 2 months in the hospital, and a home nurse would help with cares, etc. She ended up just sleeping nearly 24/7 for a while and then passed quietly in her sleep. I hope that your grandma has just as peaceful a death as hers was. I know it is so hard when you are constantly worrying, but know that we are praying for you and your family as you go through this difficult time.

dixienut

08-13-2009, 6:35 PM

i will pray your grandmother gets her dying wish,.. as we all deserve that right,..
and i'll pray for pease,.. for you, when that time comes,..

PuppyFluffer

08-13-2009, 9:40 PM

I am thinking her and your whole family.

I applaud her strength to say no to the hospital and to take charge of her life and her passing herself! Something tells me she has been a good role model for you. You are blessed to have a grandparent ( I never knew any of mine and wish I had had that relationship). I hope you have a wonderful relationship with her. Remember, while the body does not live forever, the love that a person imparts to this world can live on in those who remember them and use it for inspiration.

May she pass peacefully in her sleep!

FINJOY

08-13-2009, 9:47 PM

DONE

smullins

08-13-2009, 9:53 PM

My Thoughts and Prayers are with You and your Grandma.

UncaBret

08-13-2009, 10:42 PM

Prayers are lifted for all of you.

Bret

petluvr

08-13-2009, 11:32 PM

Redneck Woman

08-14-2009, 11:21 AM

My heart goes out to you. My prayers are with you and your grandmother.

BigFishKeeper

08-14-2009, 11:24 PM

I will pray for you you have my prayers.
-Alex

petluvr

08-15-2009, 2:14 AM

At the hospital with her now, she is not expected to live through the night :(

jpappy789

08-15-2009, 2:38 AM

Oh wow :(

My thoughts are with you and your family.

janewalsh11

08-15-2009, 7:28 AM

WOW as I read through these posts I started to cry, not for my grandmother but for the out pouring of thoughts you guys have given not just me but her as well. She is still battling through at home. When I was with her last night I laid in bed with her she put her arm around me and we just talked. She reminded me of things I had forgotten, and I did the same for her. I just hope beyond hope that her suffering ends soon and that she is granted her last wish to go in her sleep.

When i read this i cried,you have been truly blessed Pet,to have such a wonderful amazing grandma,these last moments are so special and you will always treasure them.Aways remember the happy times you shared together,the love and laughter.
You and your grandma are in my thoughts and prayers. x

dixienut

08-17-2009, 11:57 AM

At the hospital with her now, she is not expected to live through the night :(

so sorry i hope you and yours and comforted in knowing we all feel your pain,..

my mother died unexpectedly, in 2001 from a brain bleed,.. and after she died we found a few pages with poems about dieing, as if she knew and left them for us,.. to help explane,... here is one:

I'm Free

Don't grieve for me,
For now I am free,
I'm following the path God laid for me.
I took his hand when I heard him call;
I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day,
To laugh, to love, to work or play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way;
I found that place at the close of the day.
If my parting has left a void,
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared a laugh, a kiss;
Ah yes, these things, I too will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow;
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life's been full, I savored much;
Good friends, good times,
A loved ones touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all to brief;
Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me;
God wanted me now, He set me free.

coach_z

08-17-2009, 12:45 PM

BoCoMo

08-17-2009, 1:17 PM

You both are in my thoughts and prayers.

petluvr

08-17-2009, 1:44 PM

I am not near a computer on the weekend but last night i was driving home from my friends house and all i was thinking about was how your grandmother was doing. i am sorry to hear that she is not doing well. my thoughts are still with you and your family.

-chris
THANK YOU and everyone else. My grandmother has been told either she go on a respirator or she will die, she refuses. She is 78 and holds a firm and fast belief in Christianity. She says when it is her time to go she will go and it is not up to her to interfere with someone elses plans. I must respect her wishes although like I have said it is hard to sit and watch her not be able to breath and know that the next time the telephone rings it may be the call no one wants to get.

Jakezori

08-17-2009, 2:24 PM

My prayers are with you and your family.

Be reminded of Philippians 3:20-21 which says "But our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, who will transform our lowly body to be like his glorious body, by the power that enables him even to subject all things to himself."

and of Revelation 21:4 which says "He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away"

PuppyFluffer

08-17-2009, 6:33 PM

I wish her smooth passage and while your heart will be heavy with loss, I hope you your heaviness will lift with memories of her joy! I admire her spunk!

Dixie, that poem is very beautiful!

mel_20_20

08-18-2009, 12:12 AM

Pet... just know that so many others care and are thinking of you and your Grandma tonight... and we will be tomorrow... and until you let us know she has gone to sleep in rest.

Please also know that even then and in the weeks ahead we will continue to keep you in our thoughts and in our prayers, hoping that you are comforted in your loss.

It is said often, but it is still true, that time will help to ease your grief... things will get better... and days will come when you can think of her, without tears and sorrow, and remember how special she was to you and your family, and how blessed you where to have her.

petluvr

08-18-2009, 12:20 AM

Thanks Melody I know I will miss her but I still can't help but to wish that she could go ahead and go to a better place where her heart and lungs are fine. I know some people may think that wrong of me but all it would take was for those people to see how she struggles for every breath for them to change their minds. Also in case anyone is wondering she has never smoked a day in her life, everyone in my family dies of one of three things lung problems, cancer or alzheimers.

DooSPX

08-18-2009, 10:39 AM

My prayers are with you and your family petluvr!

petluvr

08-19-2009, 6:58 PM

Her left lung has collapsed, she has been rushed into surgery to try and reinflate it. If it is successful we have demanded she be moved to another hospital that has doctors who specialize in respiratory problems.

BreezeRuehls

08-19-2009, 7:55 PM

Oh god, I am so sorry to hear that. I know how it is, If you ever need anything, please let me know.

petluvr

08-19-2009, 7:57 PM

Oh god, I am so sorry to hear that. I know how it is, If you ever need anything, please let me know.
Thanks, they successfully reinflated her lung and are in the process of transporting her now. Breeze thank you for thinking of me and my grandmother when you are about to send your husband off to war. Your family will be in my thoughts.

Somervell

08-19-2009, 8:08 PM

Bless you both. I will continue to keep, you, your family and Breeze and her family in my prayers.

Quinn1928

08-19-2009, 8:21 PM

your family is in my prayers.

thesixis

08-19-2009, 10:36 PM

My thoughts are with you and your entire family.

petluvr

08-21-2009, 12:50 AM

A chest tube has been inserted and a ventilator was AGAIN mentioned. She has AGAIN refused the ventilator. Is it wrong of me to wish her suffering to be over?

PuppyFluffer

08-21-2009, 1:22 AM

It is not wrong of you at all. It is a loving and compassionate wish and one I share with you. I hope she passes peacefully in her sleep.

Can she have any medications that might ease her?

petluvr

08-21-2009, 1:45 AM

She has been placed on Morphine but they are saying it is affecting her heart problems and may have to take her off it.

bitbot

08-21-2009, 1:56 AM

I've been very moved by reading through this thread, and, petluvr, I would like to say my thoughts are with you and your grandmother. It's not wrong to feel whatever you're feeling - I'm sure you love her very much.

beabroca

08-21-2009, 2:08 AM

im sorry for your suffering, i cared for my grandmother of 91 years for a year until she pasted on april 8th. it is hard but you hate to see them suffer. i understand your pain and wanting hers to be over, you are not wrong for this.

your in my prayers!

bea

lookit

08-21-2009, 11:27 AM

Petluvr, I went through this with my mother many, many years ago. When she finally passed, it was such a relief but only because her suffering was over. I missed her terribly and still do today, but I've never regretted that her suffering ended. You and your granny and all your family are in my prayers.

petluvr

08-23-2009, 11:57 PM

Her left lung has again collapsed and the doctors say it is shot. Her oxygen level is down to 78% and her heart rate is EXTREMELY low. The doctors tell us she is basically being kept comfortable now.

PuppyFluffer

08-24-2009, 12:51 AM

I wish her comfort and loving care. I've said it before and I'll tell you again, I admire her spunk!

petluvr

09-27-2009, 8:31 PM

My dear sweet grandmother passed today. Thank you to all who sent up a prayer or thought for her.

PuppyFluffer

09-27-2009, 8:42 PM

Thank you for letting me know. I have thought of her and you often. Good thoughts and prayers will continue for you and your family!

BreezeRuehls

09-27-2009, 8:52 PM

Im sorry to hear that. If there is anything I can do, let me know.

thesixis

09-27-2009, 9:32 PM

I am very sorry for your loss. I have been thinking of you and your family.

Moesmom

09-27-2009, 9:56 PM

I am so sorry but I am sure she is in a better place. I lost my father this past March and he was very sick for way too long. Though we weren't sure he heard us we constantly told him to move on and then felt horrible for wishing it for him. I understand and wish you a good recovery over your grieve.

mel_20_20

09-27-2009, 11:07 PM

Pet... I'm so sorry for your loss... and for the deep grief you now feel at losing your beloved grandmother. You and your granny have been in my thoughts and prayers, and though it is good that her suffering has ended, I know your heart is heavy with the sorrow you now feel at losing her.

I hope the good memories will comfort you over the next days, and weeks, and years. The pain will get better, but it will take time... you have to let yourself grieve at your own pace.

Please know that there are so many people thinking of you tonight... and sending wishes your way... hoping for comfort and solace for you in this sad time of your loss.

petluvr

09-27-2009, 11:09 PM

The hardest part for me was leaving that hospital room knowing I will not see her again and feeling as though I was leaving her alone.

snoopy65

09-28-2009, 5:49 AM

I am so sorry for your loss, pet. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

excuzzzeme

09-28-2009, 7:08 AM

As long as you remember her you have not left her alone. Keep her memory and honor that memory. It is ok to miss her, it is ok that you feel guilty as these are very normal feelings. Don't beat yourself up thinking "that if only I . . . ." as you cannot stop what is meant to be.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family during this trying time. You will always miss her and that's OK. That's a part of loving someone.

petluvr

09-28-2009, 8:16 AM

Thank you everyone. As you all know she has been sick for a VERY long time and it was her time, still no matter how well prepared one thinks they have prepared themselves preparation can never allow you to actually be prepared, which I found out the hard way sinceI had a MAJOR anxiety attack at the hospital. She will be truly missed and I almost dread going to make the arrangements today unfortuantely in this life it is a necessary evil.

lookit

09-28-2009, 8:56 AM

Dear Petluvr, I'm so sorry for your loss. Just keep in mind that your granny is in a better place and at peace. She's no longer suffering and can concentrate on watching over you and your family. Although it hurts for now, your pain will ease with time, and you'll always love her and have wonderful memories of her. Take care.

Bubbles2112

09-28-2009, 9:14 AM

Pet, I am very sorry to hear that your Grandmother has passed. It is good for her though as her suffering is over--but yours is not. A wound of the heart is very difficult and I hope you can take comfort in knowing that she was ready and welcomed death and is no longer in pain. I watched my dear Mother suffer for a long time with breast cancer and at the end, death was a release for her as well as for us--but it still didn't make it any easier. Losing someone you love is devastating and I hope that you are doing okay. I am glad that you got to spend some time talking with her before she passed, I am sure it was of great comfort for her. She sounds like she was a very strong woman as she has survived longer than the doctors expected. Take time brother. You and your Grandmother are in my prayers.

Coler

09-28-2009, 9:18 AM

Sorry for your troubles Petluvr.

Your Granny was clearly so loved and is missed. I'm glad you had all this time with her in your life, right up until these very sad days. Hopefully the rituals of the arrangements will help with your grieving process. My thoughts are with you and your family.