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dwayne
07-15-2004, 11:49 AM
Get a tissue before you read this essay... I usually don't pass along stuff like this, it's kind of long, but has a really important message

A man in Grand Rapids, Michigan incredibly took out a US$7,000 full page ad in the paper to present the HOW COULD YOU? By Jim Willis, 2001

How Could You?

When I was a puppy, I entertained you with my antics and made you laugh.

You called me your child, and despite a number of chewed shoes and a couple of murdered throw pillows, I became your best friend.

Whenever I was "bad", you'd shake your finger at me and ask "How could you?" -- but then you'd relent and roll me over for a belly rub.

My housebreaking took a little longer than expected, because you were terribly busy, but we worked on that together. I remember those nights of nuzzling you in bed and listening to your confidences and secret dreams, and I believed that life could not be any more perfect.

We went for long walks and runs in the park, car rides,stops for ice cream (I only got the cone because "ice cream is bad for dogs" you said), and I took long naps in the sun waiting for you to come home at the end of the day.

Gradually, you began spending more time at work and on your career, and more time searching for a human mate. I waited for you patiently, comforted you through heartbreaks and disappointments, never chided you about bad decisions, and romped with glee at your homecomings, and when you fell in love.

She, now your wife, is not a "dog person" -- still I welcomed her into our home, tried to show her affection, and obeyed her. I was happy because you were happy.

Then the human babies came along and I shared your excitement. I was fascinated by their pinkness, how they smelled, and I wanted to mother them, too. Only she and you worried that I might hurt them, and I spent most of my time banished to another room, or to a dog crate. Oh, how I wanted to love them, but I became a "prisoner of love."

As they began to grow, I became their friend. They clung to my fur and pulled themselves up on wobbly legs, poked fingers in my eyes, investigated my ears, and gave me kisses on my nose. I loved everything about them and their touch -- because your touch was now so infrequent -- and I would've defended them with my life if need be. I would sneak into their beds and listen to their worries and secret dreams, and together we waited for the sound of your car in the driveway.

There had been a time, when others asked you if you had a dog, that you produced a photo of me from your wallet and told them stories about me. These past few years, you just answered "yes" and changed the subject. I had gone from being "your dog" to "just a dog," and you resented every expenditure on my behalf.

Now, you have a new career opportunity in another city, and you and they will be moving to an apartment that does not allow pets. You've made the right decision for your "family," but there was a time when I was your only family.

I was excited about the car ride until we arrived at the animal shelter. It smelled of dogs and cats, of fear, of hopelessness. You filled out the paperwork and said "I know you will find a good home for her."

They shrugged and gave you a pained look. They understand the realities facing a middle-aged dog, even one with "papers."

You had to pry your son's fingers loose from my collar as he screamed "No, Daddy! Please don't let them take my dog!" And I worried for him, and what lessons you had just taught him about friendship and loyalty, about love and responsibility, and about respect for all life.

You gave me a good-bye pat on the head, avoided my eyes, and politely refused to take my collar and leash with you. You had a deadline to meet and now I have one, too. After you left, the two nice ladies said you probably knew about your upcoming move months ago and made no attempt to find me another good home. They shook their heads and asked "How could you?"

They are as attentive to us here in the shelter as their busy schedules allow. They feed us, of course, but I lost my appetite days ago.

At first, whenever anyone passed my pen, I rushed to the front, hoping it was you that you had changed your mind -- that this was all a bad dream...or I hoped it would at least be someone who cared, anyone who might save me.

When I realized I could not compete with the frolicking for attention of happy puppies, oblivious to their own fate, I retreated to a far corner and waited. I heard her footsteps as she came for me at the end of the day, and I padded along the aisle after her to a separate room.

A blissfully quiet room.

She placed me on the table and rubbed my ears, and told me not to worry. My heart pounded in anticipation of what was to come, but there was also a sense of relief. The prisoner of love had run out of days.

As is my nature, I was more concerned about her. The burden which she bears weighs heavily on her, and I know that, the same way I knew your every mood.

She gently placed a tourniquet around my foreleg as a tear ran down her cheek. I licked her hand in the same way I used to comfort you so many years ago.

She expertly slid the hypodermic needle into my vein. As I felt the
sting and the cool liquid coursing through my body, I lay down sleepily, looked into her kind eyes and murmured "How could you?"

Perhaps because she understood my dogspeak, she said "I'm so sorry." She hugged me, and hurriedly explained it was her job to make sure I went to a better place, where I wouldn't be ignored or abused or abandoned, or have to fend for myself --a place of love and light so very different from this earthly place.

And with my last bit of energy, I tried to convey to her with a thump of my tail that my "How could you?" was not directed at her. It was directed at you, My Beloved Master, I was thinking of you. I will think of you and wait for you forever. May everyone in your life continue to show you so much loyalty.

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A Note from the Author:

If "How Could You?" brought tears to your eyes as you read it, as it did to mine as I wrote it. It's because it is the composite story of the millions, of "formerly owned" pets, who die each year in American and Canadian and Australian animal shelters. Anyone is welcome to distribute the essay for a commercial purpose, as long as it is properly attributed with the copyright notice.


Please use it to help educate, on your websites, in newsletters, on animal shelter and vet office bulletin boards. Tell the public that the decision to add a pet to the family is an important one for life, that animals deserve our love and sensible care, that finding another appropriate home for your animal, is your responsibility and any local humane society or animal welfare league can offer you good advice, and that all life is precious.

Please do your part to stop the killing, and encourage all spay and neuter campaigns, in order to prevent unwanted animals. -

Jim Willis

Please pass this on to everyone, not to hurt them or make them sad, but it could possibly save, even one unwanted pet.

Remember, they love UNCONDITIONALLY, if you give them LOVE.

OrionGirl
07-15-2004, 12:42 PM
:sad

No words...Can't think of anything...

Dangerdoll
07-15-2004, 12:44 PM
:sad I second that OG :sad

though I must say that I am very passionate about animals and am appalled at the simple act of turning pets over to the community shelters due to their conveniences being over or whatever the best excuse details out to be..... there are other places if there HAS to be a reason.... SAFE places....:rant:


(EDIT: dang typo's)

aquariumfishguy
07-15-2004, 1:08 PM
Just last week I had to call authorities after a rainy day and a dog which was left outside. Actually, it was severe t-storms and no animal should have been outside... we had hurricane force winds (in Michigan) and the dog was barking wanting to come inside (this was at a home across from my driveway). He jumped over the fence to leave the wide open yard he was kept in, and the owner came out and tossed the dog over the fence.

... the dog did this a second time one hour later (still raining) and the owner not only threw the dog back over the fence, but he then began kicking the dog in the ribs area.

I was so pissed and called the authorities, they came and got the dog but said they would only hold him for 24 hours and then he would be returned to the owner... the owner had to pay 200 bucks to get the dog back. I feel he got off lightly, as he will continue to do this to his dog.

Anyway, thats life eh? :rolleyes:

greeneyedlady
07-15-2004, 1:17 PM
Sad but very true........


Hey AFG--I have to drag my border collie in kicking and screaming to get him to come in when it is raining or snowing, the goof-ball loves running around in the wet. Turkey dog :rolleyes:

OrionGirl
07-15-2004, 1:21 PM
:) My sister had the same problem with her border collies--they love the rain and snow. Suffer during hot days, but party in the wet! My boys are getting to the point where they prefer being outside at night--cooler than it gets inside. The short hair doesn't mind as much, but the longer coated one gets soggy. I give them cool bathes to help.

cheech
07-15-2004, 2:31 PM
I don't know.. Maybe it's just me, but those "touchy" stories where the narrator is supposed to be an animal, and trying to make me become all sensitive over the short story don't work for me. .

Just my opinion.. Not that I don't like animals or anything like that, but I find these things silly. . .



imo

Dangerdoll
07-15-2004, 2:35 PM
hehehe, my dobe is just the opposite! When I get home, I let the dogs out (2 shephards, 1 dobe) they jet out, then after the business and no longer, she runs up to the others barking in their faces, ordering them to the door. LOL or when I open the door to call them in, she rund to them and does the barking thing and jets for in the house..... the rain and snow.... she would hold it in for 24 hours if she could just so she wouldn't have to get wet.

OrionGirl
07-15-2004, 2:36 PM
Ah, but do you talk to your pets? Some people do, some people don't. I talk to my pets because they seem to pay attention, and know what I am saying. Until proven otherwise, I will continue to confide in my cat and dog. So, I do know this makes me more susceptible to things written from their point of view.

And yes, I know it's anthropomorhic to assign human thoughts, feelings and reactions to animals. Doesn't change the fact that people who get animals then don't plan on caring for the animals full life span tick me off, and make me wonder about who really is the 'dumb animal'.

dwayne
07-15-2004, 3:12 PM
I agree 100% OG.

My cat Winnie, who passed away when she was very old, knew a lot of secrets of mine! I talked to her all the time. Animals (definately dogs and cats) most certainly have some of the same emotions as humans - loyalty, sadness, excitement, fear... and they have one emotion that humans have in limited capacity - unconditional love.

That dog that AFG mentioned, he probably still loves his owners... fears them for sure, but loves them as well. Poor little guy.

~Tara

becky_e
07-15-2004, 4:29 PM
This story is kind of why I don't have a dog yet. When I was born my parents had to get rid of their dog. She growled at me the minute I was brought through the door and continuously for about a week. They were afraid their newborn baby was in danger.

Since I'm in my baby-making years (I have 1 and I want another soonish,) I've resisted getting a dog because it would hurt too much to have to give the dog up if it wouldn't accept a new baby.

That said, we have 3 cats. 2 completely ignore my daughter and the other plays with her continuously! I'd never move anywhere that wouldn't allow my pets. They are such an important part of the family.

Dangerdoll
07-15-2004, 4:33 PM
Originally posted by becky_e
Since I'm in my baby-making years (I have 1 and I want another soonish.) I've resisted getting a dog because it would hurt too much to have to give the dog up if it wouldn't accept a new baby.


that's very considerate and thoughtful of you becky, it warms me that people DO think before they go out and do....

while it is unfortunate that some people need to give there pets away, I know there are some circumstances that are called for, but there are other options out there than just dumping them at the vet... such as rescue groups, foster homes, finding another family member...... some people just take the easy way though.... and basically dump them at the easiest spot....

and I agree with OG too in that I do speak to my animals and like her as well, mine know more secrets than any people know.... I find comfort in it. Though they might not be understanding.... I feel they are in other ways. **can't wait to go running home for puppy/kitty hugs**

dwayne
07-15-2004, 4:39 PM
I have 3 friends who all had to get rid of their dogs because of jealousy issues with the new baby. They even did all the "right" things before they brought the baby home (take a piece of baby's clothing or a blanket home to let the dog smell it, play with a baby doll for a few weeks before the baby comes along).

They placed ads in the local paper, and hung flyers up at grocery stores etc... Two of them gave their dogs to good families (one of them the dog is right across the street, so it's almost like they never gave him away)... the other one ended up having to give him to a shelter though, because nobody wanted a 9-year old mutt, and the dog had overstayed his welcome at my friend's mother's house. They were SO sad to give him away, but it had to be that way.

When they dropped him off, they left a large donation, and instructed the staff to call them if it came down to having to put the dog to sleep, they would again try to find him a home. They hadn't heard anything in 3-weeks and decided to give the shelter a call to see how he was doing... he was adopted 5 days after he was dropped off... by a lady who regularly takes her 2 dogs to a few local nursing homes to visit!!!!

Bailey was (is!!) a really sweet dog, he just didn't like the baby at all. Which was suprising because he was the nicest, sweetest dog whenever I'd go visit (sit on your feet, slobbery 'kisses' etc...) so I'm sure he's making some old folks very happy :)

~Tara

Dangerdoll
07-15-2004, 4:45 PM
that's the way to do it Tara. What a great story. IMO, pets are part of the family, to drop them off without a second thought is where the problem comes.... your friend played an excellent part of that in that they followed up and instructed the shelter if it came to the last hours :(

your post brought tears, there are good people out there!

cgrabe
07-15-2004, 5:03 PM
To play devil's advocate, nobody knows where their life will take them in 10+ years. Things come up that force you to find new homes for your pets. The problem is that when that situation arrises, many don't put much effort into find a good home for their pet. I haven't been in this situation myself yet, but I really can't see myself taking a pet to a shelter. If I can't find a new home for an older pet and simply cannot keep it myself, I'd at least have the decency of killing it myself instead of putting that burden on someone else.

Leopardess
07-15-2004, 5:12 PM
edit

becky_e
07-15-2004, 5:46 PM
Holy crap! Rant away, Leopardess! If one of my friends did all that, it'd drive me nuts, too. Newborn baby time is not puppy time, that's for sure! A puppy can be as much work as a baby human. It's a good thing she's in another state now or she might be trying to give you a puppy in a short while.

Copper
07-15-2004, 6:12 PM
Your post has brought up some painful thoughts about my own baby girl. We got her years ago and I was unable to take her with me when I moved to another state. Fortunately my parents were able to keep her and care for her. Now that I'm back in the state, I live in an apartment where it would be inhumane to keep a dog that large, so she still lives with my parents. My mother takes comfort in her company; she is disabled, and my dad works nights, so they keep each other at night. She is still my baby girl, dispite the years that have gone by. They don't live far away, and I go to see them all as often as I can. Fidget (the dog) looks for me excitedly when she hears the sounds of motorcycles, or when my wife comes by without me. On occassional weekends, I bring her to my apartment to stay for a few days, but always it's back to my parents house. She is doing well, but in spite of that, I still feel guilty and lonely about not having my bestest friend at home where she belongs. :sad

geoffgarcia
07-15-2004, 6:15 PM
animal fanatics scare me.... :rolleyes:

aquariumfishguy
07-15-2004, 6:43 PM
... Some human beings scare me. ;)

OrionGirl
07-15-2004, 6:59 PM
It's cruel to treat any animal like it's a human being, and then suddenly change it's status to animal. All my animals are treated like people. Nothing fanatical about it--and I've had to put down my own animals, because of health issues--couldn't dump that on someone else.

If you don't like that, your call, but being sarcastic about it is uncalled for, thanks.

aquariumfishguy
07-15-2004, 7:03 PM
Agreed.

I do not treat my animals like my equal, but I still agree that animal fanatics are nothing to be talked down upon. :)

PS: My post after Geoff was a sarcastic reply to his comment... sorry, I wasn't making it seem like I was in agreement with what he said. :o

ash
07-16-2004, 2:38 AM
I got it AFG. :) Leo you must be exceedingly patient. I woudl lose it with that girl.

happychem
07-16-2004, 11:19 AM
Stories like that always get me, but only with dogs. I guess it's 'cause we lost our big, loveable golden of 13 years just a year ago last Christmas.

As for putting animals down, I know it's fiction, but when you get a pet, you take on the responsability for its life. That means taking care of it, providing it with the best conditions in your means and sufficient conditions otherwise, and, in the end, putting it down in a humane fashion. Although there is an irony here, I'm not touching it.

I don't think that it's fanatical to insist that people should treat their pets properly. Nor to be apalled by those who take ownership of another creature in a negligent or cavalier manner. But then, I've got a bit of a soft spot for the critters.:rolleyes:

Leopardess
08-16-2004, 2:46 PM
edit.

Dangerdoll
08-16-2004, 3:14 PM
guh! Thanks for the update Leo!! Some people really amaze me, it's people like that who wind up dumping these eventual inconveniences off at the shelter door during the middle of the night!

So glad the pup is back with it's mother, but I can't help but also worry what kind of hands the mother of the pup is in if they're handing out her 's puppies so early....

Mr. U
05-22-2007, 5:54 PM
Positive note:
My pup is a pound rescue. She's now very well trained, and is considered to be a quiet indoor dog. She's lives the good life of being spoiled (beer and cheezits when I have them), and gets sleep on my bed when it thunders outside -big chicken dog! :)

evepirate
05-23-2007, 5:55 AM
A couple years ago, my mom, brother and I were basically poor as can be. Sharing one room together at my grandma's for about a year.

Pretty much because the dog and 2 cats we had, and they were spoiled.

*chuckles*

I love the animals, and I love my mother for never giving them up for an apartment. It was rough, but well worth it.

^_^

People are just incredibly lazy. It makes me sick to even hear of such things.
Didn't they pass a law in CA to get your pet spayed? Or is that hopeful rumors..