Are surprise parties "ethically questionable"???

Decz said:

... ... As it would be, this response comes from a person with a little bit of power within the group of people involved ... ..

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Just a quick 'guess'...

This person of "power" is a control freak and wishes the idea of the party was his/her idea. This person is trying to sound even more important with unfounded political correctness.

Have fun - and a great surprise party!


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Decz, I wouldn't call them "ethically questionable," but I will say that I'm in the category of don't ever give me a surprise party - ever!

I think you have to know the recipient of the party to know if he/she can handle being surprised. I've been involved in only a handleful of surprise parties in my life, and I always feel rotten about the lying inherent in staging such a thing. My preference would be just to flat out tell the person and be done with it.

Perhaps this person feels more strongly than I do and simply won't be a party to the party if it's a surprise?

Never had a surprise party myself, but we just gave a beloved friend a 75th surprise birthday party. Being almost impossible to get something by this guy, and him always playing the "tough, gruff ol' coot," he was totally surprised by the hundred folks who showed up to honor him, and he was brushing little tears away all night. Diff'rent strokes . . . but it's a sad thing when one butt has to try to ruin it all--definitely party envy.

You should write back and tell him that it's a good thing he isn't coming, cause people who think that surprise parties and questionably unethical weren't supposed to be invited to begin with .

Unbelievable how in this day in age, someone managed to find something wrong with the concept of surprise parties!!!

I agree, the only thing questionable is the person who is being surprised will not have made sure their hair is done or their clothes are in tip top order for when the millions of pictures are being taken... surprise parties back in the day were a huge thing and the surprisee was appreciative of all their friends who could pull it off....

cheech said:

You should write back and tell him that it's a good thing he isn't coming, cause people who think that surprise parties and questionably unethical weren't supposed to be invited to begin with .

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Is retaliation really the answer, or maybe instead taking the high road with no response ... or asking in a kind way why the person feels that way, and more of their point of view. Of course, they may tell you to get bent but they may also appreciate your asking a genuine question. My $.019 (rounds up to 2 cents).

NotGumbel said:

Is retaliation really the answer, or maybe instead taking the high road with no response ... or asking in a kind way why the person feels that way, and more of their point of view. Of course, they may tell you to get bent but they may also appreciate your asking a genuine question. My $.019 (rounds up to 2 cents).

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Normally I'd agree with you, but in this case, I don't. I mean, all it is is a surprise party. The organizer is doing his best to set this up.. If it bothered the invited guest, the right thing to do would either be to not reply to the invitation, or, contact the person after the party and explain to him why he didn't show...

But to simply reply to the invitation in such a manner shows that this person is just bitter, and like the rest of those extremists out there, needs to find himself a hobby that doesn't involve trying to fight for causes that make no sense. . . .


"surprise parties are ethically questionable, therefore I am not attending"

Give me a freaken break... This world has become way too sensitive!!!


nowadays everything we do is questionably ethical. There's someone out there that's gonna get offended over any little thing we do... And not to offend anyone would mean we'd have to become robots, and not have an opinion, which in turn would drive us nuts. . . imho

This person sounds to me like they would be the ones to walk up & tell you you what's wrong with you (overweight, bad hair/complexion) "for your own good"...and the less you can do about the problem, the more likely they are to point it out to you! :mad2:

My mom sent my dad one of those ape birthday grams once at work. My dad was pissed.

I think that is much worse than what you are planning on though . I've never heard of such a thing being questionable.