can you tell if there male or female?

The firemouth looks like a gal. Males have long flowing extentions from the tip of their dorsal fin as well as from the edges of the tail fin. Males also tend to be a bit brighter and a wee bit larger.

Oh thank you, I do hope to get her a mate. I just was not sure what gender to get LOL! I know her/him is not brightly colored. do you need more pics to be sure if this truly is a female firemouth?
 
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