well greg i have went out and bought a honey gourami that will be going in the main tank this saturday.now all i have to do is find out how to sex them.
no i am on several forums and this one was not getting answers and one on my other forum was getting good answers fast.so i worked it out on that forum.
and just so you know i am not gonna go through this again with him not wanting to eat.so i did work it out on my other forum and im not getting another.
This might be after the fact, but I have 2 female and 1 male honey gourami and they are all awesome. The two females will chase each other once in a while. The male just hangs out looking beautiful. I've had them about 6 months with no apparent breeding angst. It probably means they aren't breeding.