ya that sounds about right, personally i would leave for alone (no touch or messing around in her tank) for a solid week then try a live fuzzy or pinky after that week is done and see if she eats, o and how have you been feeding her just dangling it in front of her or putting it in a separate container with her? edit never mind saw you tried both.
what i used to do with my kenyan is put the fuzzy in a tupperware container with him, the container would be in the tank and the lid was just places on so he could get out when he was done eating, then i would just leave him alone till he ate it. he was not a problem feeder though and was actually a little aggressive around feeding time.