Please do not give up! I know it can be hard with everything semingly happening in such a short time but sometimes that is just the way it is. Believe me, I know. I have been fish keeping now for more than ten years and things still happen. Last week on 10-2-06 my saltwater reef crashed meaning that just about everything in it died within 24 hours. All of the corals except for one, all of my inverts, two of the five fish(one being a prized yellow tang), and I do not see a lot of life on the live rock. I know the feeling of wanting to give up and total dispair! But I have decided to not give up and forge ahead. Trust me, it will get better from here. When you are this far down, the only other way to go is up.(I read your other thread).
As far as the filters, I would run both filters on the tank if you can at least for a couple of weeks so the new filter can be seeded from it. The old filter has a lot of very benificial bacteria that the tank needs to run properly and for the fish to thrive. This will give the new filter time to catch up and retrieve the good bacteria from the old filter. I believe in overfiltering anyway. This means more oxygen for the fish.Can't have too much of that. If it were me I would just add the new filter and keep the old one too if there is enough room for both of them. I think you mentioneed that the old filter is an eheim. I love eheims! I think they are some of the best filters out there on the market today. (Canister right?) I don't see any reason why you can't run a canister filter on the tank in addition to the bio-wheel. Which bio-wheel are you considering for the tank?
Keep up the good work and keep us updated as to the progress of your tank. I wish you all the luck in tbe world. This hobby can be very rewarding. You just have to go along for the ride.
Marinemom