R these people friends or what?

platytudes said:
What a lovely and elegant response, dudley!

Sigrid, I'm not sure why you type the way you do - with the "U" instead of "you" and "R" instead of "are" and the bold blue Comic Sans font, but I think more people would be willing to participate in an online discussion with you if you didn't write this way. I don't know if you're trying to stand out or what, but I have a hard time reading your posts, and I'm sure I'm not the only one. It's almost as distracting as writing in all caps. Your unusual writing style is difficult enough to follow your sentences, but the font and bolded blue makes it worse.

Of course you can do whatever you want, but I would highly suggest you not type this way. You may like it, but I assure you most people don't!
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I wasn't going to say anything, but since Nicole brought it up, I'm going to add an :iagree:. I honestly skip over most of your posts, Sigrid, just because it is quite the strain for my eyes to read. Don't take it as insult, just constructive criticism.
 
I find the OP to be a bit self-serving and not at all a "rounded" opinion of others. Sounds like you are not willing to change but would rather complain about the differences. I am sorry you have such a hard heart. I hope someday it will thaw and let the real you come out.

People become lonely from building walls instead of bridges.
 
excuzzzeme said:
People become lonely from building walls instead of bridges.
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not for naught... completely off topic... etc., etc. ... but this is quote worthy and something i, personally have to work on.

thanks for that. been thinking a bit lately. (notice the avatar)
 
WOW, what a response I received from all of you out there in Aqua land.
The one time I asked for some help, I actually was beaten down by people who know nothing about me. People, who followed only the "over-reacting voice" of someone who needed to let his frustration out on someone else; all of you felt compelled to add more negatives.

My initial problem - my presentation of my hobby - my writing style - the font I use -the way I use the font - all of it was yanked down. I do hope that all of you feel better about yourself; may you never need the help or support of someone when you are feeling down.
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dundadundun said:
not for naught... completely off topic... etc., etc. ... but this is quote worthy and something i, personally have to work on.

thanks for that. been thinking a bit lately. (notice the avatar)
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One of his quotes is my signature....LOL
 
Sigrid - we all rub each other the wrong way sometimes, it's just a fact of life - and you can't please everyone no matter how hard you try. I find your posting here extremely irritating, but I'm wise enough to realize it's not you, it's the combination of you and me that does not work. If you want to improve your social lot in life, you need to make a long term goal to live among more people, or at least create more social interactions so you can find that minority of people you can click with. people who are socially awkward tend to escape into the internet world of virtual relationships, so you must try to avoid that trap. it's important to develop diplomatic skills with real people because later in life you will encounter these people you rub the wrong way and cannot avoid them, as they may be your coworkers or organizational bureaucratic you must work with to accomplish your objectives. there are books on the subject that MBA's consider required reading such as How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, which is not a how to book on being less irritating, rather helps you navigate the social behavioral hints people give off that you may be missing, and greatly increase your social awareness - so in effect, you are here complaining people don't listen to you, when in fact you may be ignoring their subtle hints to shut up already (something you can't notice while online). Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray is another type of book that's basically about Coed social awareness that you might benefit from. a type of book that can equip you better in adult conversation is Cultural Literacy by E.D. Hirsch Jr. which should be required reading for young people today who didn't grow up reading newspapers - you may understand why once you read it. I'm not suggesting you buy these books to fix yourself, just that there is a lot better information out there to help you beyond the feedback of strangers on a fish tank forum.
 
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Sigrid said:
WOW, what a response I received from all of you out there in Aqua land.
The one time I asked for some help, I actually was beaten down by people who know nothing about me. People, who followed only the "over-reacting voice" of someone who needed to let his frustration out on someone else; all of you felt compelled to add more negatives.

My initial problem - my presentation of my hobby - my writing style - the font I use -the way I use the font - all of it was yanked down. I do hope that all of you feel better about yourself; may you never need the help or support of someone when you are feeling down.
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I haven't seen a single response beating anyone down, save from you painting all "outback" New Yorkers in a negative light. Maybe a little introspection would benefit you; ask yourself why after living in an area for 5 years you have no real friends. From your responses in this thread, I highly doubt it's all one-sided, with your neighbors and the people living in your area solely to blame.
 
As a New Yorker, all I have to say is this. Sometimes, when faced with a handful of failed relationships, you have to ask yourself, what's the common denominator?
 
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