If this is the case, then the water flow rate to the sump in constant and cannot be altered. And thus you must match the flow rate of the return pump with the flow rate to the sump.
The way I found to control the flow rate from the sump to the tank is to place valve and use the valve to regulate water flow rather than the pump. I would put the pump at its highest rating and use the valve to match the flow rate with the flow to the pump.