I totally agree...Worms aren't a bad thing, just me being fussy. And there aren't many parasites that show up in the aquarium, but they are around. Non-parasitic worms are much more frequent. I have found leeches, but I know they were introduced with a lot of blood worms (not in my main tank!).
The reason dragonfly nymphs aren't considered parasites is they actually are predators. Parasites don't kill their host intentionally, death is usually a secondary reaction to the presence of the parasite. For example, maggots are not parasites, since they don't infect healthy flesh and never kill a creature. Tape worms don't directly kill their host, but may result in malnutrition/starvation, which can and does kill the host, as well making the host open to any number of other potentially deadly infections. The only time a parasite benefits from killing it's host is when it cannot go to it's next life stage without the host dying. Many examples of this--wasps that develop in caterpillars, worms that colonize a snails gut until forcing the snail to climb a stalk of grass and become bird food, etc. Tricky things, parasites!
Sorry--I realize this is way off topic. Parasites are a fascinating force of evolution, but not really applicable here.