I feed my Rams flake in the morning (they come to the top to feed) and then feed them a frozen food (brine shrimp or bloodworms) every other night and then the nights I don't feed frozen, I feed freeze dried foods (bloodworms, shrimp, daphnia, tubifex).
My Rams grab, then chew, then spit out, then repeat, then repeat again, and then finally eat it. LOL