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Take some time off for yourself and get to know who you are...and in time you will heal...try to do things to keep yourself occupied...hang out with friends (but not the ones that you both hung out with)..your own personal friends, do the things you missed doing by yourself....
and one of my true friends gave me this advice....and it goes for all...
BOYFRIENDS COME AND GO, BUT FRIENDS ARE FOREVER..
so just do the things you want to do, and spend time with your friends and family...trust me it works....
I was in a relationship for 10 years with the same guy and then I took 5 years off and did absolutely nothing...just hung out with my friends...and man, did it get my head back on straight...made me more picky, and what I WANTED out of life...not what the other guy wants...I lost total touch with myself and now I am back in tune....
Just remember you only have one life...and there are more fish in the sea...
and one of my true friends gave me this advice....and it goes for all...
BOYFRIENDS COME AND GO, BUT FRIENDS ARE FOREVER..
so just do the things you want to do, and spend time with your friends and family...trust me it works....
I was in a relationship for 10 years with the same guy and then I took 5 years off and did absolutely nothing...just hung out with my friends...and man, did it get my head back on straight...made me more picky, and what I WANTED out of life...not what the other guy wants...I lost total touch with myself and now I am back in tune....
Just remember you only have one life...and there are more fish in the sea...
Dangerdoll
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gosh Liz *hugs*
I agree, take the time to be by yourself to get to know who you are again. To see the deeper you.
I agree, take the time to be by yourself to get to know who you are again. To see the deeper you.
and you are so young too...you have plenty of time to figure out what you want out of life...like what you what as a career, where you want to be in 5 years...just take it easy and slow, and please dont jump into the next relationship that seems to present itself to you...alot of us women have made that mistake in our lives...I have been there done that....rebound relationships are the worst...and it makes us feel more horrible about ourselves....so take some time off and find you...
and hugs to ya also....it will pass,
Just remember, you may be alone, but you are NEVER lonely...friends and family are the most important in a young woman's life...take advantage of it and run to the hills...I wish you the best and please be careful...I know I dont know you like DD does...but one woman knows another womans pain, when it comes to relationships,,,KIM
and hugs to ya also....it will pass,
Just remember, you may be alone, but you are NEVER lonely...friends and family are the most important in a young woman's life...take advantage of it and run to the hills...I wish you the best and please be careful...I know I dont know you like DD does...but one woman knows another womans pain, when it comes to relationships,,,KIM
I know it must hurt, but you will survive....some guy somewhere is just waiting for you....The big guy upstairs has better plans for you...maybe it wasnt meant to be....
just do alot of things and try and stay away from the places you both went to....and put away all the stuff he has given you...good memories can be stored...bad memories need to be flushed...
Just keep your time occupied with things YOU love to do...in relationships we sacrifice to make the other happy, and we lose ourselves in the process...and we, at the time, really dont know anymore what we want, but in time it will all come back to you...
And I can just imagine what you are going through right now...just be patient....and you will be fine...
just do alot of things and try and stay away from the places you both went to....and put away all the stuff he has given you...good memories can be stored...bad memories need to be flushed...
Just keep your time occupied with things YOU love to do...in relationships we sacrifice to make the other happy, and we lose ourselves in the process...and we, at the time, really dont know anymore what we want, but in time it will all come back to you...
And I can just imagine what you are going through right now...just be patient....and you will be fine...
Get a new and improved boyfriend!
If you broke up with him, that should be easier.
If he broke up with you, keep your chin up and don't let it knock you back down. You'll be better for it in the end. There are plenty of guys better suited for you out there for the taking.
If you broke up with him, that should be easier.
If he broke up with you, keep your chin up and don't let it knock you back down. You'll be better for it in the end. There are plenty of guys better suited for you out there for the taking.
Like someone has said already, you are still very young. I had some long term boyfriends also, but just take a breather and don't be too eager to start another relationship just to help yourself feel better. If he has made you feel bad and you are only dating, just imagine if it was more serious. Ask yourself if that's how you'd want to be treated for the rest of your life. Everyone should be w/someone that makes them feel special. And don't ever let anyone make you feel like you're not special.
Dangerdoll
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the best advice is to wait for your next relationship. The quicker you jump into one, the blinder you will be. It's good to be picky, never settle. You are a great girl and deserve nothing better than as much or better.
He was very good to me, it's just there were intellectual and religious differences that caused problems and stress for me. It'd be hard to find a guy as good to me as he was, though.
I'm not sure I did the right thing. We're trying to remain supportive of eachother and close friends (I don't know if that's possible) and right now I guess our relationship is basically on hold, because he doesn't want to date anyone else. Since I am not sure whether I made the right choice, I'm not really moving on just yet. But I don't want to get into that cycle of breaking up and going back out the next day, only to break up again a month later.
I'm not sure I did the right thing. We're trying to remain supportive of eachother and close friends (I don't know if that's possible) and right now I guess our relationship is basically on hold, because he doesn't want to date anyone else. Since I am not sure whether I made the right choice, I'm not really moving on just yet. But I don't want to get into that cycle of breaking up and going back out the next day, only to break up again a month later.