Wedding Rings?

OrionGirl

OrionGirl

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So I'm picking out a wedding ring. I don't want anything elaborate, not looking for a traditional setting that costs 2-3 months salary. (pic attached.)

All my friends have said they think it's simple and elegant, no problems. And of course, my SO just wants me to be happy--he'd buy just about whatever I picked. My concern--I've heard catty, nasty remarks made regarding wedding rings. I don't want to put up with that, and don't want my SO to feel that he should have bought me something bigger (that I wouldn't like!).

Why the heck have weddings turned into such a public thing? From how much is spent on the ring, to the number of guests, to how much loot you get for presents. It's just confusing as all heck to me. I know one couple that is spending $1800 on the cake alone! Sheesh! Like it's some sort of trophy to cart around. To me, the wedding should not be a big deal--it's the committment in the years that follow that is important, not that one day.

Am I out of touch, or has the whole process gone whonky?

As an aside--I do think the bride should get to be the princess for the day. If that's what you want, great, but why is there this expectation that everyone wants that, too?

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There is nothing wrong with that ring. It looks very nice.

I know that I would much rather have a small wedding for close family and then a nice party for friends later on to celebrate. In my mind there is nothing wrong with a good buffet and good DJ. Let people relax, dance, chat and have a good time.
 
Actually I really like that ring. Is this for a wedding ring or for an engagement ring?

When I picked out Jaime's engagement ring and when we both picked wedding bands our primary concern was that the rings be practical. Jaime is a nurse and has to put rubber gloves on and off all day so a big rock was out of the question before I even looked at prices. As for bands, I'm a klutz and I typically rush into hands-on jobs without thinking "Hey, bet this will ruin my ring". So, I wanted something comfortable in the 10-14k range so it wouldn;t be too fragile.

You're the one who has to wear it forever so I wouldn't worry about the catty folks.
 
I really like that ring. Some of the bigger rings just look gaudy. It'd look better though if I had someone's finger to put in it. :) I know it's much easier said than done, but it really shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks about it.

I really don't want a big wedding myself. If it weren't for immediate family, I'd just as soon elope. I think too much focus is often put on the event rather than the couple.
 
It's the wedding ring. I'm more concerned about what someone would say to my SO--anyone dumb enough to voice a criticism to me will be curtly put in their place--I have no tolerance for that kind of thing. ;) We haven't decided if we want to do an engagement ring or not--if so, it will be this one(attached)--still not a costly ring. I'm more concerned with the sentiment behind the rings than the price tags. :)

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we each have our own style, if thats the ring you like then go for it.
Do you plan on wear the ring all the time anyway? or just on special occassions?

Personally I'm not a ring person, if I ever get married the wedding ring is going into a jewlery box or sock drawer after the honeymoon
 
I really like both rings a lot. I would be horrified if someone made a disparaging comment about Jaime's ring. That would be incredibly inappropriate, which interestingly enough, would made the snotty person making the comment pretty classless. I wouldn't worry about it at all as a man. I doubt he would either.

Besides, I think you're more likely to get comments about small engagement rings than a wedding band. If I see just a band I assume the woman isn't wearing her engagement ring. As just a band I think the one you picked is beautiful.
 
I'm not sure if he'd be upset or not--I can't alway gauge that one right. He's normally pretty tough about things, but this is something really personal.

I'd likely wear it most of the time--my work doesn't involve anything that would damage it. His job would prevent him from wearing his most of the time(his will be a simple gold bad, matching width to mine).

Yep--comments are incredibly classless, but I've heard them!
 
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