Wedding Rings?

[RTR]

Herself's wedding band is a bit more ornate, but totally stoneless. No engagement ring either. J said then she was too young for diamonds, still has not developed the habit (can you hear the cheers in the background?). My Mother's diamonds are all still in the bank, they never come out. I guess that my son will get then someday, but his current fiance is not a rock person either. My band spent its life in my pocket (lab folks do not do rings) and I thought I lost it - it turned up later when I had the leather seat in my car repaired. Talk about honesty - they could have kept it and we would have never known, I thought I had sent it to the laundry in a lab coat pocket. By then it no longer fit and I was out of the habit.

Personal jewelry is a personal choice. Folks who make snide comments I'm afraid say more about themselves than about the person to whom the comments are addressed, or about their choice of jewelry.

These days anyone who sports big rocks routinely is making themselves a target in any case, and enriching their insurance company.

 

[SnakeIce]

yes by all means get something that is meaningful to you and your spouse.

the ring that my wife has looks far pricyer than it is but the colors and meanings are still the same wheather we spent the money for the more expensive versions of the same color stones or not.


my wife's ring is a simple white gold channel set with 4 each green red and purple stones in the repeteing order of green red purple...

green- my favorite color, red- love, hearts... you get the idea, purple her favorite color.

12 total in number for the many references of 12s in the church as Christs bride... to remind me every time I see it of the true example of what a committed loveing relationship is.

we could have spent quite abit of money(for us) and gotten emeralds, rubys and amethysts for the stones to be those colors, but we spent less for the same meaning with tsaverite garnets(green), garnets, and amethysts in our custom altered setting of white gold.

would have had the ring in silver but silver is to expensive to change settings like that

 

[Leopardess]

"These days anyone who sports big rocks routinely is making themselves a target in any case, and enriching their insurance company."

Hey now, its not okay to make remarks about little rings, so its not okay to make remarks about those with big rings!! Besides, size doesn't matter

 

[cgrabe]

Besides, size doesn't matter

And it's a good thing too!

Ya know, because big rings are expensive and all.

 

[RTR]

Yes, as a matter of fact it is - not because of the rocks themselves as much as the fact of making yourself a mugging target on just about any city street these days, which has to do not being wise rather than simply being ostentatious. The latter case is a social faux pas, the former case is high risk behavior.

 

[Lila]

OG ... I love it! I think it's actually simple and elegant. My ring is a band with three small diamonds. I honestly was not interested in anything that would be a great down payment for a car!

Beautiful choice, doll!



Lila

 

[becky_e]

OG, those are great rings. I never thought the wedding band was something women made catty remarks about. My original wedding band was just a white gold band with a row of beading on either side! My new wedding band is an even plainer style yellow gold band. It was a gift from my mother-in-law because I can't wear my rings after having a baby, fingers just got too big! I wonder if anyone has said any disparaging remarks about my wedding bands behind my back?

Anyways, I solved the "my diamond is bigger than your diamond" senario by getting a nice big sapphire for my engagement ring, which I also can only wear on my pinky now because of my daughter, anyways!

 

[happychem]

Our wedding bands are just simple 10k gold bands. We looked at some others available and decided that the simple elegance of a gold band was what we wanted. The woman at the jewelery shop where we ended up buying our rings showed us her rings (15years) and you couldn't tell the difference between the 10 and 14k gold ring.

There's a lot of talk about quality this and size that, but in the end it comes down to what's discernable with the naked eye. Folks aren't going to come up to you with a gemoscope to examine your diamond!

As for your SO, I suspect that what he wants more than anything else is to make you happy. If you choose the ring that makes you feel warm and fuzzy and it's exactly what you want, and he knows it, then if anyone ever makes any comments to him about it, he'll know that he got you exactly what you wanted, made you happy and in that respect was far more successful than the commenter. So the comment won't hurt him and he'll probably just tell whoever to get a life.

Get what makes you happy.

Oh, and congratulations!

 

[mogurnda]

I like that ring a lot. It's an attractive piece of jewelry that makes the right statement. I often think a big rock says something about the insecurities of the person wearing it.

Oh, and big congratulations, by the way! Once you survive the event itself, marriage can be a whole lot of fun.

 

[Leopardess]

"Yes, as a matter of fact it is - not because of the rocks themselves as much as the fact of making yourself a mugging target on just about any city street these days, which has to do not being wise rather than simply being ostentatious"


What kind of car do (some of) you have? No one's gonna be robbing me of my 86 saab...What kind of clothes? Stereos? Saying a nice ring or piece of jewelry makes you stupid for putting yourself as a target would have to mean that you can't have a nice new car, nice cell phone, money in your wallet, etc.


"I often think a big rock says something about the insecurities of the person wearing it."

I really am kind of sad that in one line, people criticize those who make comments about things that are no one else's business. Saying that no one has the right to judge someone's "small" ring. But in the next sentences, some of these people are doing the same thing in reverse! Wow.

Again I'm going to say, I don't think its fair to criticize people who's SO decided to get them a big ring - nor those who chose a small one. I had no say in it. Heck, I didn't even know it was coming. So I won't be made to feel bad for it! "Should I say 'hon, thanks for spending so long picking it out, but I'm giving it back because people will talk about me'?"

But I guess I'll be careful of all the muggings we have here in the seacoast of NH!

I love those rings og, especially the first one. Its very feminine and lady like. (Sorry to put a bit of a damper on your thread) My mom has a ring that's like the second one you showed and its very nice...though...I think it has something like rubies as the stones.

And sorry if I missed it, but when are you getting married?