Recent Convict Aggression

Same here man, he doesn't harm her does he, mine doesn't but he flares up and chases the hell out of her for a few seconds and then starts up again occasionally leaving her alone all together for about 45 minutes. I have mine in a 29. Target fish wont do any good, I've already tried. if you want to try dithers or target's get a group of about 6 zebra danio's

target fish in a 20g with a pair of cons will just get regarded as food/intruders. you could try to put in more floating plants and more decor for hiding places for the female.

in my brothers tank with the pair of cons he has sometimes i see the female con hiding with my old blue acara who guards all other fish

dithers of zebra danios would get eaten up, my brother had like 8 zebras in his 55g and they all were eaten within like a week. maybe giant danios, have heard they work well with convicts but my brother has never tried them. his tank seems to be fine with out dithers.

i think the best idea would be to get a bigger tank. because 2 cons in a 20g is kinda pushin it but it could work if they wernt so aggressive.

JW how big are these cons?

They definitely test each other...almost all fish with pair bonds test each other when something goes awry!!!

I've got the reverse happening. The male can't go anywhere in the tank without the female giving chase. She'll even just spot him when cruising by and chase him from the corner. He hides inside floating plants until she spots him and goes after him again.

I'm considering a tank divider.

I'm worried because he hasn't been feeding. She is fully colored, all dark lavender and bold stripes now, bright red abdomen.
The male is a bout 2 inches long, she is about 2.5 long.

What to do?

I think part of the problem is that some cichlids are just not compatible. In nature cichlids will pair up based on size and aggresiveness. If one or the other is two big/small, or too aggressive/not aggressive enough they look elsewhere. Not an option in an aquarium. That's why the serious breeders always buy a bunch of sub-adults and pull out pairs as they form. Again, not an option for those of us with limited tank space. I guess that's the price we pay for being chiclidiots. :sad:

The one thing that was suggested to me, and worked (too late if you already have the fish of course) is to either buy bonded pairs, or in my case, camp out infront of a tank full of fish and try to pick the ones that are already starting to bond. (the tricky part is keeping track of both of them, once the lfs guy starts in with the net :duh: ) As to what you do when the "pair bond" breaks down, well if I knew that i wouldn't have had to come home to a dead female cacatuoides after her second spawn failed.