I had one, when I first started the hobby, and I thought I was lucky enough to have a cool anemone.......... This booger was huge, not to mention the fact that I fed it, and cared for it....lol. Anyway things base was probably 2 inch diameter, and about 5 inches tall. The oral disk was about the size of a nickel, and the tentacles were probably about 3 inches long. Well still thinking I had something, and not knowing that pepermint shrimp ate aptasia, I bought 3 pepermint shrimp. About the second or third night of me having the shrimp, my anemone I cared for so hard disapeared. I figured out a day or 2 later that pepermint shrimp eat aptasia, and aptaisia is a neusance.
Anyway, point being, I do not think it matters what size the aptasia is, with enough shrimp, they will eat it, or I am very lucky that they ate this big one before it decided to reproduce.