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brutus12
09-28-2005, 7:04 PM
How do I talk my wife in to an aquarium? She thinks it is going to cause a lot of mess. I have not had one since I was a kid. After I saw this site and all your nice pictures, I really want to get one. Well if any one has pros vs cons for an aquarium, let me know.
Any response appreciated.
TheMightyQueenPixie
09-28-2005, 7:14 PM
There are no cons Brutus :) Just tell her it is a tank or a mid-life crisis corvette...
Xielos
09-28-2005, 7:16 PM
Pros:
Aquariums can be a beautiful centerpiece for a living room, and is a great conversation starter, if properly maintained.
A larger tank is easier to maintain than a smaller one.
Aquariums can help lower high blood pressure.
Its better than watching a TV. :dive2:
Cons:
Its a lot of work to keep maintained and beautiful.
Some fish need special care to be healthy
If not maintained, it can stick up the whole house
If not properly leveled, the tank can burst; bye bye floor
Can be rough on your back changing water every week/2weeks :laugh:
What you can do is get a small tank (small meaning ~30G because smaller tanks could be more maintenance) that is simple and pretty self maintaining to get her "feet wet" :D
I have a 29G that is very self maitaining. No plants, and good amount of fish. It has some good decor with some driftwood which make it appealing. It has 8 Yellow Labs and one 12" Pleco that does not know when to stop growing. It also has two pond snails that reproduce often which feed the pleco and yellow labs (they love snails).
I change water once a week and clean one of the filter sponges (AC 500). Total maintenance time is ~45 minutes AND that includes feedings (~5 minutes a day).
WHen she realizes tanks can not be high maintenance you can drop the pretty tanks on her may it be sw or fw. :Angel:
There are no cons Brutus Just tell her it is a tank or a mid-life crisis corvette... I wonder if I can use that excuse later on to get a bigger tank when we get a house - hmmm, think of the possibilites :idea:
Good luck on your quest
Aries
you made me ink
09-28-2005, 7:50 PM
Xielos is right tanks are proven to lower blood pressure and they are a great decoration for your house they can be a bit pricy (well for me atleast im only 16 with a girlfriend and no job) to set up but overall i wouldnt say they are troublesome to maintain esp. if you have hardy fish but i have never had a regret spending money on my tanks except for when i first started i put dwarf puffers in with an angelfish BIG mistake
I thought of more points....
Btw - tanks are great. My fiance and I live in an apartment (cant wait for house) and we have MANY tanks. Before I met her I could care less about fish. Now she has created a aquarist MONSTER :p:
We have 1 55G, 1 30G, 1 29G full aquarium, 1 29G Vivarium with firebellies (boy are they LOUD!!), 1 10G and 2 5.5G's now. The 5.5G tanks are displayed in our entertainment center piers - one on each side. That is 134Gallons of tanks to maintain. I maintain the two 29G's, 1 30G and 1 5.5G. It takes me ~2.5Hours a week to maintiain them. WIth ~70% of the time being on my 30G which is planted.
Tanks can be QUITE the decor accent to an ensemble (if that makes any sense). We sort of go for the whole jundle/wildlife ensemble in our living room - I think that is what it is called...
Again, Good luck
Aries
YoFishboy
09-28-2005, 8:02 PM
How do I talk my wife in to an aquarium? She thinks it is going to cause a lot of mess. I have not had one since I was a kid. After I saw this site and all your nice pictures, I really want to get one. Well if any one has pros vs cons for an aquarium, let me know.
Any response appreciated.
DAMMIT! BE A MAN! Don't ask...just get it....if there is a mess, tell her to clean it up!
Now, with your next wife, may I suggest that you use the "it's an attractive piece of furniture" con, or...."doctor says it will cure my (insert disease here)"......tell her that studies show it will relieve her stress, particularly when you pis her off...like when you buy a fish tank....tell her you are fish sitting for a friend named Joe......two months later, tell her your friend Joe was abducted by aliens and is being probed 300 million light years away and won't be coming back....maybe say its a baptismal pool for your new found religion? You see, there are many, practical arguments for getting a fish tank....show us the pics real soon!
you made me ink
09-28-2005, 8:34 PM
yeah somtimes just doing it works the best -lol- she will think the fish are cute anyways :argue:
dirtydawg10
09-28-2005, 8:38 PM
I started my tank by using the excuse that it was for my son. I bought a 10 gal. so it wouldn't be so obvious. Now she knows it was for me, but what she didn't realize is that she is now hooked. I even caught her searching on ebay for a larger tank...WooHoo...Good Luck...
fishtank88
09-28-2005, 9:09 PM
it is true that it can be pricy but if you really want a tank you can find some one selling things cheap thats why most people come on here because im only 14 with no job or allowance and i have two tanks a 10g with plants cryptos, watersprite, and grass and one piece of driftwood. the fish are a couple baby guppies(that luckily aren't getting eaten, but i hope i can add the rest of my guppies) 3 white clouds, sucker fish, skunk loach, and two other fish that im not quite sure what they are and my tank is doing fine. they are also extremely fun to look at, so fun in fact my friend snuck into my room when i was watching my fish that i wouldnt even have realized him if he didnt say something. but i also have a 50g trying to get it off the ground but since my parents arent even helping me its been sitting there since the beginning of the summer and the only way i got it was i was helpin out my moms friend and asked if they were using the fish tank and they so no so when they moved into my neighborhood i got it for free. so you could get lucky with something like that :thm:
knashash
09-28-2005, 9:14 PM
LMAO fishboy......and I agree. Just do it man! Youre a grown man...get the **** fish tank if you want one. Its not like buying house and youre not going to a strip club or anything. Something low maintenance around 30 gallons or less will be easy to take care of. I have a 55 gallon, a 10 gallon and a 6 gallon...plust a 2 gallon Betta tank sitting on my desk in the office......hmmm why arent I married?
flyfly
09-29-2005, 2:27 AM
fishboy, that was flippin hilllllllaarious
If i might add to the other well-thought-out ploys, I would say that after you get that initial fish tank (you know you will :D ), if you want to get more, or bigger, fish tanks this is a guaranteed method right here. It sounds corny at first but stick with me.
Do many many fish related things in front of her.
examples:
*go to fish stores often and spend lots of time there just "browsing"
*visit fish websites for long durations of time then afterwords share with her what you have learned
*make "fish friends" and talk to each other constantly, whether at the bar or on the phone, in "fish code"
*finally, and this is the eaaasiiiiest one, stare off into space with the "Im deep in thought" look. When she asks what you are thinking about, shrug your shoulders and say "Oh, just looking for flaws in my potentially new livestock plan"
After a month or two of this you will be officially branded a FISH DORK. And heres the trick. Women love dorks. I dont know why, they just do. So they will back you up on your little "fish fetish" as long as it doesnt injure the bank too badly and you let her joke about you (in a loving way) to her friends.
Thats it. Thats the secret.^^
phoenix
09-29-2005, 7:07 AM
If it was me I would A) tell my wife I was going to get a tank, and B) go get the tank. She should, of course, have a say in the size of the tank since there may be budgetary considerations. I would also take her to the pet store and let her choose at least one type of fish to stock the tank with. If she knows that you will be doing all the maintenance I don't really see what the big deal is. An aquarium, especially if it is planted, can be a beautiful centerpiece for any room. I do all the work on my tanks and my wife can just sit back and enjoy them.
greendeltatke
09-29-2005, 7:25 AM
You didn't say if you had kids. Kids are a built-in excuse. You can even put a tank in their bedrooms.
Find out what her chief objections are- is it the cost, the space issue, the labor, the time, the possible tackiness and find ways to ameliorate and/or compensate for them.
DAMMIT! BE A MAN! Don't ask...just get it....if there is a mess, tell her to clean it up!
I'm with Yo here. I did stuff like that all the time and my tank looks lovely in the back seat of my car. No need to worry about multiple tank syndrome when she gets the house in the property settlement.
Alternatively you could give her a tank for some sweet sentimental anniversary and look really hurt if she even looks like she doesn't like it.
It's up to you but do you really want to turn in to this guy:
http://www.seanmorey.com/mansong.html
beviking
09-29-2005, 2:00 PM
...I did stuff like that all the time and my tank looks lovely in the back seat of my car. No need to worry about multiple tank syndrome when she gets the house in the property settlement.[/url]
Amen brother. DON'T make it a p!$$!n match. It WILL take alot of your time initially! It MAY be a mess from time to time initially. It takes time to get it the way you want it. If she gets involved as a positive influence, you'll be less likely to throw the hammer/boot/tv remote etc at the tank later when she's complaining AGAIN about "that d@m^ tank".
HERE is what you do...
1) Find a DECENT restaurant with a NICE aquarium in it. Reserve a seat near that bad boy.
2) Enjoy dinner and with that Barry White voice, mention how nice an aquarium would be at the house.
3) Discussion ensues about all the research you've done here at AC. You talk about the pros and cons. How you can spend more time together (cuz you could be at the bar with buddies "being a man" or be home looking after your tank).
4) After a nice dinner and good conversation, return home, light the candles, and THEN be a man!
The aforementioned "be a man" replies are correct in a sense that she should accept you regardless of your new interest, but "there are many ways to get there from here".
HTH
I'm with Yo here. I did stuff like that all the time and my tank looks lovely in the back seat of my car. No need to worry about multiple tank syndrome when she gets the house in the property settlement.
Alternatively you could give her a tank for some sweet sentimental anniversary and look really hurt if she even looks like she doesn't like it.
It's up to you but do you really want to turn in to this guy:
http://www.seanmorey.com/mansong.html
LOLOLO Chill......Too too funny !!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
That was better than YoBoys comment...I must say, though I did enjoy his too.
Yo...look out....you've got some competition here....lol... ;)
BeViking...very wise suggestion there.....wine and dine her...it's a much better option and will most likely produce the best results.....IMHO ! ;)
brutus12
09-29-2005, 8:24 PM
You know, 99% of the people here are Ok, just a couple of twits that cant face the the realty of my posts, not gonna waste my time here any more, Pinky and I dont need your help. So later, and to the decent people of the site, take care.
PS, I have 4 aquariums, dont need to beg a wife for one.
YoFishboy
09-29-2005, 9:00 PM
Et tu brutus?
Wow.... :confused: ....don't know where that came from.... :confused:
Notice the avatar?? Brutus's oscar sure looks a lot like Bob's oscar!
:eek:
*Note to self - don't use the same avatar when trying to pretend to be someone else after I've made an *** of myself on a fish forum*
knashash
09-30-2005, 10:20 AM
Man...if anyone needs an aquarium its Brutis......maybe it will chill him out a bit
mishi8
09-30-2005, 10:30 AM
Notice the avatar?? Brutus's oscar sure looks a lot like Bob's oscar!
:eek:
*Note to self - don't use the same avatar when trying to pretend to be someone else after I've made an *** of myself on a fish forum*
I don't think Brutus chose that avatar himself. ;)
brutus12
09-30-2005, 11:02 AM
Wow.... :confused: ....don't know where that came from.... :confused:
Your Ok EMG, actually one of the best and fairest people on the site, and even Yo fish boy is cool, just a very few of you have a problem with me. LOL
knashash
09-30-2005, 11:09 AM
Your Ok EMG, actually one of the best and fairest people on the site, and even Yo fish boy is cool, just a very few of you have a problem with me. LOL
You make EMG sound like Galadriel of Lothlorien or something......forget about the fish tank Brutus.....get some therapy
Holly9937
09-30-2005, 11:26 AM
I'm sooo confused :confused: !?!?!? I can understand making up a new name, etc. strange as it may be, but why such an odd thread? If you have 4 tanks already, what is the fun of starting one about how to talk your wife into a tank?!??
beviking
09-30-2005, 11:29 AM
At first glance, I'd say WTF Brutus? Post some bogus thread!?!
BUT, even though the premise was made up, there will be (are) ppl in that situation that could benefit from the replies. That's what AC is here for!
I thought EMG WAS Galadriel of Lothlorien...or something...:)
aknif
09-30-2005, 11:31 AM
Because that's what :troll:'s do....
You know, like, only a troll would get their chops busted for DAYS about having too many oscars in too small a tank, and then come on here to proudly announce that he's bought yet ANOTHER oscar to cram into the fray...
Golly, to think of all the silly things I could do if I didn't have this darn LIFE getting in the way!!
:laugh:
reignman40
09-30-2005, 11:33 AM
I have to say I read through this entire thread and didn't see anybody who was doing anything other then joking around. Everyone seemed very respectful and although a lot were joking around there was some sound advice given. Just seems childish the way the thread ended up going south.
aknif
09-30-2005, 11:38 AM
I agree fully! I thought this thread was funny as all get-out until right about.......
"You know, 99% of the people here are Ok, just a couple of twits that cant face the the realty of my posts, not gonna waste my time here any more, Pinky and I dont need your help. So later, and to the decent people of the site, take care.
PS, I have 4 aquariums, dont need to beg a wife for one."
...........there.
telecubby
09-30-2005, 11:43 AM
Wow.... :confused: ....don't know where that came from.... :confused:
nice tank a little sparce might I suggest a trip to your local river for sinkwood & rocks .I like to add them to my tank live but you can always biol'em .Dark colour substrate & decor enhances fish clour (as well as live food enhance colour & ussualy come attatched)
YoFishboy
09-30-2005, 11:52 AM
nice tank a little sparce might I suggest a trip to your local river for sinkwood & rocks .I like to add them to my tank live but you can always biol'em .Dark colour substrate & decor enhances fish clour (as well as live food enhance colour & ussualy come attatched)
:confused:
knashash
09-30-2005, 12:00 PM
:confused:
I think he was commenting on one of EMGs tanks LOL.......this thread needs to be put in a straight jacket
brutus12
09-30-2005, 12:02 PM
nice tank a little sparce might I suggest a trip to your local river for sinkwood & rocks .I like to add them to my tank live but you can always biol'em .Dark colour substrate & decor enhances fish clour (as well as live food enhance colour & ussualy come attatched)
That sounds like a cool tank, I love natural decorations and plants, I decorated my new tank with awsome colorful rocks from block island, I would post a pic, since every one liked my other tank, but.............
Well, gotta get back out to closing the pool and all those other get ready for winter jobs.
You make EMG sound like Galadriel of Lothlorien or something....
You.....you mean....I'm NOT ?? http://www.planetsmilies.com/smilies/sad/sad0127.gif http://www.planetsmilies.com/smilies/sad/sad0119.gif
nice tank a little sparce might I suggest a trip to your local river for sinkwood & rocks .I like to add them to my tank live but you can always biol'em .Dark colour substrate & decor enhances fish clour (as well as live food enhance colour & ussualy come attatched)
http://bestsmileys.com/clueless/1.gif
:huh:
daveedka
09-30-2005, 3:43 PM
You.....you mean....I'm NOT ??
With that awesome avitar EMG you can be anyone you want.
A troll is anyone who spend their time wasting everyone else's time here. whether it be through purposeful posting of mis-information, inciting negativity, or just creating unnecessary questions to keep everyone distracted. I would love to see Bob come here and spend time constructively. the more the merrier, but when I realised this was just another deception thread setting everyone up for the turn of events, It's easy to See Bob doesn't mean to help anyone but rahter would like to cause trouble. I've never understood people who are so bored, selfish, or juvenile that they must spend their time hurting others no matter how minor oer extreme that hurt may be. Bob, why don't you grow up or go away and leave people alone. either one would be welcome as far as I'm concerned, but the current situation isn't making any friend for you and certainly isn't doing anyone including you any good.
Dave
rosemarie0007
09-30-2005, 6:14 PM
Hi everyone,
Bob's girlfriend here! Yes, that's my pretty picture with the ugly horse.
Bob was dong the talking though, not me. I actually do know a lot about horses though, and other animals and even fish.
I don't know what hapened here. Bob told me last night he "didn't lke making up stores". He didn't like being "banned" for expressing his opinion. He does have a point. I don't believe you should be "banned"
unless you make threats or are abusive, and Bob did prove that "banning"
well, there are ways around that, so maybe he should have been allowed to express his thoughts. A person can always hit "delete" I belonged to an un-moderated forum for two years, and there was something that was good about that, whether or I agree with the way Bob expresses himself, and making up stories is not a good thing to do.
I do want to say that Bob has done a really great job with the tanks. The fish are healthy and he is very conscientious "Pinky", knows Bob and jumps when he enters the room. We did recently rescue a baby oscar from walmart after having martini's but, sorry we're not perfect.
I have always really loved fish. I have a fascinaton with them, so it has been great having 4 fish tanks. I also want to say that I think the people on this site are great and I hope you won't "ban" me, but allow me to read
and lurk and if I have anything to contribute allow me to.
-RoseMarie
YoFishboy
09-30-2005, 6:25 PM
I dunno..I think we are going to need notes from Bob and Rosemarie's mothers...maybe former teachers? Minister from your church? Still need some convincing here...
daveedka
09-30-2005, 6:38 PM
Bob was most likely banned for giving Ill advice and defending the idea of overcrowded tanks repeatedly. I do not know for sure and don't even care why he was banned. But I do know that many people had to work really hard to undo the damage Bob tried to do here, and his actions since being banned are both juvenile and unnecessary. He could easily have found a way around the ban, returned and been beneficial, but he did not. he found away around the ban and started the same crap that caused him to get banned before. To defend grossly overcrowded tanks, Rumors and myths, offer poor advice , and then try to claim that he is doing a good job of caring for fish is kind of like shooting yourself in the foot to get rid of a wart. I would gladly have Bob here (not that my opinion really matters) if he would not cause a lot of trouble and contribute to the betterment of this hobby somehow. There are many things done by many people that do not fall under the category of "A good idea" but they are not offered as advice to beginners and are not defended when questioned. There is a far cry of difference between having an overcrowded tank, and defending it as an acceptable practice. Bob had been a huge disruption and a pain to a lot of people, and when he was cautioned by many he became a bigger pain instead of being sensible about what anyone had to say. As said earlier, I'll be the first to welcome him back if he wants to contribute something positive, we see our share of trolls here, and they become easy to spot after a while. We are all here to learn, and Bob could learn a lot without creating strife and confusing people who genuinely want to gain knowledge.
It really does take a lot to get banned, It's not something that most of us like to see happen, but when someone causes enough trouble, it does happen.
Just my two cents (which will by nothing in today's world)
Dave
rosemarie0007
09-30-2005, 9:33 PM
Oh come oN!!!!!!!!
We are talking FISH here. People eat fish.
_R.M.
TheMightyQueenPixie
09-30-2005, 9:42 PM
wow, this thread certainly made a left at weirdsville....Immagine, BOB HAS A GIRLFRIEND....
People eat fish
Yes and they also eat horse...Lovely with some fava beans and a nice Keeeyanti :)
rosemarie0007
09-30-2005, 9:49 PM
He is TVBBFITWW
The very best boy friend in the whole world
daveedka
09-30-2005, 10:40 PM
Read the start of this thread, he has a wife. does she know about you ????
Dave
YoFishboy
09-30-2005, 10:48 PM
Dave...i have the sickening feeling that Bob and Rosemarie are the same guy in his underwear sitting in front of his computer.......
ashdavid
09-30-2005, 11:07 PM
Dave...i have the sickening feeling that Bob and Rosemarie are the same guy in his underwear sitting in front of his computer.......
Did you have to go and say that???...... Now I have a mental image that I can't get rid of!!! ;)
The is the second schizophrenic in as many weeks.LOL :D
daveedka
09-30-2005, 11:13 PM
ouch, that ruined my evening,
dave
TheMightyQueenPixie
10-01-2005, 7:17 AM
Dave...i have the sickening feeling that Bob and Rosemarie are the same guy in his underwear sitting in front of his computer.......
Oh i was so thinking the same thing...Sort of the "3 faces of Bob?" meets "The Crying game"
brutus12
10-01-2005, 1:27 PM
Dave...i have the sickening feeling that Bob and Rosemarie are the same guy in his underwear sitting in front of his computer.......
Not into that sort of thing, but there is a good chance Bob and Rosemarie might sit at the computer together in their underwear. But no, we usually keep our clothes on for going on the computer.
YoFishboy
10-01-2005, 1:30 PM
Not into that sort of thing, but there is a good chance Bob and Rosemarie might sit at the computer together in their underwear. But no, we usually keep our clothes on for going on the computer.
Whatever floats your boat Rosebob!
Holly9937
10-01-2005, 3:18 PM
Wow... and so the story continues :rolleyes:
There are many animals that are kept as pets and are consumed, even dogs unfortunately. However, those kept as pets are usually afforded better treatment than those kept as food. In Bobs tanks this is not the case. And, as Dave said, there are probably lots of people who keep their tanks in ways that are not ideal, but these people do not defend their practices, nor offer them as appropriate set ups to newcomers. BIG difference
I think Bob is getting way more attention than he deserves right now.....I think we should stop enableing his weird obsession here and just end this now...
Just my 2 pennies worth... :rolleyes:
Sorry Bob....I'm sure you're a really nice guy and all....but a terrible waste of my time. I probably spend more time on this site than I should as it is..and to take some of it to answer or respond to one of your bogus threads can be a bit annoying. Please stop it. :girl:
brutus12
10-02-2005, 1:38 PM
[QUOTE=Emg I probably spend more time on this site than I should as it is..and to take some of it to answer or respond to one of your bogus threads can be a bit annoying. Please stop it. [/QUOTE]
I agree, we all waste too much time on these type of sites, so I am gonna take a little break from this site, if I can manage to not log in again............ agggggghhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!
you made me ink
10-02-2005, 2:13 PM
Emg i love your avitar and i do spend alot of time on this site but its really helpful...for the most part :hang:
Yes, it can be very helpful unless you're getting bogus advice from someone who just comes here to play around.
I'm a bit thick at times and it sometimes takes me awhile to clue in when someone is not who or what they say they are......guess I just have a habit of taking folks at thier word... :rolleyes:
About the avatar...lol...yeah, made me chuckle when I first saw it...can't bring myself to change it. :p:
brutus12
10-02-2005, 3:04 PM
Yes, it can be very helpful unless you're getting bogus advice from someone who just comes here to play around.
I'm a bit thick at times and it sometimes takes me awhile to clue in when someone is not who or what they say they are......guess I just have a habit of taking folks at thier word... :rolleyes:
About the avatar...lol...yeah, made me chuckle when I first saw it...can't bring myself to change it. :p:
Well, I have aquariums and I have offered help to many, this is like my first bogus post, and I let you know it was bogus. But it is still getting alot of resposes, so lets all keep wasting our lives away.