hmm...I had the water tested at petsmart...so I dont have the readings but she said they were all 'normal'.
I recommend buying your own test kit. Who knows what the pet store people are defining as "normal"? Get the liquid tests (not the paper strips) for ammonia, nitrite, and nitrate, at least. Normal will be ammonia 0, nitrite 0, and nitrate 20 or below. Any ammonia or nitrite above 0.25 will harm your fish. When you have the tests at home, you are able to check the water and do a water change as soon as the levels get out of whack.
Was the tank cycled before you put the fish in? Or did you cycle the tank with fish? If so, in what order did you add the fish?
We change water 25% every week...
Goldfish are amazingly messy fish, on top of the fact that your tank is quite heavily stocked. A weekly water change of 25% is probably NOT enough to keep the nitrates below 20. Plus, because you have such a high bioload, you may have ammonia and nitrite issues, either of which could have led to the lesions you see on the gourami.
...and a little more with a full clean of all plants/decor 1x/month or so.
Whenever you clean deco and plants, you lose some of the good bacteria that keep your tank cycled. The majority of the bacteria live in your filter. If you ever clean your filter components by rinsing them in tap water, then you kill all the bacteria and your tank has to re-cycle. So, I'm wondering if by "full clean" you mean cleaning the filter too.... It's ok to rinse the filter components in old tank water, but never in tap water.
Last water change was saturday.
i know the rule on goldies...but they have caused little problem with the tank, and we monitor amonia levels with filter/amonia remover.
Unfortunately, the goldies probably ARE causing problems, in the form of nitrite and ammonia, but you just don't see it. If there's an ammonia problem, then the only way to truly monitor ammonia levels is by testing the water yourself, every day. Some ammonia removers can actually set your cycle back. By removers, do you mean neutralizers like Amquel and Ammolock, or removers like zeolite?
They were our first fish, and we would be sad to part with them!
Believe me, I understand. My first tank was a 10g my friend gave me when she moved, containing two gourami and two goldfish. Based on advice I got here on AC, I ended up taking the goldfish back to the pet store, which was really sad. But it was probably best for the fish. Good thing for you, though, is you've already got a nice big tank, so you could keep the goldies and buy a new tank for your tropicals. If you just separate them out, you would drastically reduce the bioload in your 70 gallon.
Do you feel isolating him at this point is recommended?