10 Gallons of Stress

I'd get in contact with CAAS as quickly as possible.
http://www.aquacharlotte.org/CAASWS/index.php
Start rehoming some of those fish, gaining friendship and learning more about proper stocking. And maybe your wife will become interested and learn the error of her ways...
 
Um, Gen, not to get too personal here (meaning, of course, that that's exactly what is about to happen) but maybe you should sit down with your wife and have a discussion about this issue before you dash off and buy more tanks. Like that she should not buy additional fish without discussion and mutual agreement and all that.

If this has been going on for more than a year it is not likely to change unless you bring it out in the open and talk it over. Otherwise just imagine what that 55 is going to look like in a few months or even days, if she goes on with the practice of bringing home all sorts of random fish because it struck her fancy. What sounds like impulse control and dominance issues at this point can easily escalate to serious anger which is not good for any relationship.

Been there, done that. And wound up with separate tanks and one is His and one is Mine and neither of us is allowed to interfere with the other's management of same. We just decided we would feel so very very stupid standing in front of a judge saying and having him ask "What are the grounds for this divorce?" and having to answer "This fishtank, your honor...."

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XanAvaloni said:
Um, Gen, not to get too personal here (meaning, of course, that that's exactly what is about to happen) but maybe you should sit down with your wife and have a discussion about this issue before you dash off and buy more tanks. Like that she should not buy additional fish without discussion and mutual agreement and all that.

If this has been going on for more than a year it is not likely to change unless you bring it out in the open and talk it over. Otherwise just imagine what that 55 is going to look like in a few months or even days, if she goes on with the practice of bringing home all sorts of random fish because it struck her fancy. What sounds like impulse control and dominance issues at this point can easily escalate to serious anger which is not good for any relationship.

Been there, done that. And wound up with separate tanks and one is His and one is Mine and neither of us is allowed to interfere with the other's management of same. We just decided we would feel so very very stupid standing in front of a judge saying and having him ask "What are the grounds for this divorce?" and having to answer "This fishtank, your honor...."

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First & foremost, thanks for the honesty.

In all due reality, if this were the first incident of this nature, that might have worked out but it started with the teacup chihauha that she just had to have and then didn't want to train on through another 3 pets leading up to this aquarium debacle. At this point, I've tried the discussion thing enough to know it's useless till she tires of the fish idea. Giving her her own tank is simply a prolonged death sentence for whatever she decides to drop in there.

Again, thank you for the concern though, especially with a relative noob like myself.

RBishop:

Thanks for the heads up! Found a guy that'll sell me a 50 gal tank for $50 bucks and from the pictures it looks to be in good condition. Just needs a filter, pump, ect. Which is alot better than the 30 Gal in the Pet Store for $80. I'm going to go and get it Friday, it's an hour and some away but it's well worth it.

In the meantime, these fish still have to survive the week and I still don't know what kind of catfish it is but seeing how large it is, it's going to need to eat more often than the schedule I have for my smaller fish.

Any idea of how often I should be feeding an 8 inch catfish and what? Tetra Flakes ok or should I buy cubes?
 
Even without seeing it..most likely daily or a stretch every other day before it starts seeing your other fish as food. Hard to say what without knowing what it is....maybe check..

www.planetcatfish.com

for a pic of something like it?
 
Sounds like you'll just have to be the empathetic one and try to stop her from killing everything she sees. I suggest bringing back what she buys unless it's a suitable fish. It would really, really help if you could provide a pic of the catfish, though it's almost deffinately going to get too big for even a 55 and should probably be taken back ASAP before it makes a lunch of every other critter she's dragged home.

Moving on to lunch, sinking pellets are the best staple in your situation. You can always waterlog the flakes and make them sink, but as a catfish it sounds like he mainly hunts at night and other fish would eat the flakes.

Really is a shame she can't appreciate that an animal is more than a cute decoration. Certainly should make some other married guys think things could be much worse. :help: Feeling for you man.
 
Genesis 1.0 said:
First & foremost, thanks for the honesty.

In all due reality, if this were the first incident of this nature, that might have worked out but it started with the teacup chihauha that she just had to have and then didn't want to train on through another 3 pets leading up to this aquarium debacle. At this point, I've tried the discussion thing enough to know it's useless till she tires of the fish idea. Giving her her own tank is simply a prolonged death sentence for whatever she decides to drop in there.

Again, thank you for the concern though, especially with a relative noob like myself.
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First thought that comes to mind is that Almira from the Tiny Toons show. I don't mean to point fingers, but it sounds like what she is doing is inhumane. These are living creatures that require time and attention. Maybe she should pick up a shoe shopping habit.

Secondly, I wanted to say that I'm very glad you are responsible and care enough about the well being of living creatures to attempt to correct the situation. I wish you well in finding a suitable setup or home for these animals! I'm sure each little fish appreciates your efforts too!
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*sigh*

Genesis, I commend you on your compassion for other creatures and your responsibility. People here will give you all fish assistance you need.

Anything else I write would get me banned.
 
Wow. I really can't even begin to describe how angry it makes me when people behave like your wife is behaving. Good for you for trying to make a decent life for the poor creatures she drags home. Best of luck, and my sympathies.

SidtheMonkey said:
Anything else I write would get me banned.
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