A question for the men of this forum

[divingne1]

Here is the situation...I brought home a 10g tank set up for a betta that was getting beat up in my 55g. My husband bellyached about the cost of having another tank (5$ a month in water and electicity) not to mention the upkeep (like he was actually going to help with that). So, I took the tank back (along with some yard powertools he purchased the next day - an electric edger, blower and weed eater would cost more to run than a shovel to edge, his own hands to pick weeds and a broom to sweep the driveway). Along comes some GBR eggs and then babies. Well they were doing well until I woke up this morning and found only about 20 left. I was so sad this morning so my husband said well honey, why didn't you just set up a small tank for the fry? I said the same reason you were on your hands and knees picking weeds yesterday. So, now he thinks it would be okay to go get a 10g setup for the remaining little guys.

My question...Why was it a bad idea when it was my idea to get a tank but because he saw how sad I was losing the babies, he decides that getting a tank would be "his" good idea?

 

[DarkSoul]

uhhhh..... a guy thing i guess... i do think it was a bit of a ***** move on his part tbh.

good on you, for taking back his stuff

I would have "lost" the reciepts so it couldnt be taken back.

i dont really have an answer for you... i never would have reacted that way.

 

[Weezer]

Sounds like if you get a new tank he gets his stuff back. lol,,,,, a qt/ fry tank comes in handy, for what GBR's cost it would be worth it......

 

[divingne1]

I have never been the type of "tit for tat" type of person but he pushed me to do it. He can have whatever tools he wnnts as long as he doesn't try to stop me from getting what I want (since I work and pay for it). I am not a high maintenance jewerly, cloths kind of girl..just fish and music. I want my tanks and iPod and he can have whatever toys he wants.

 

[Nolapete]

I have never been the type of "tit for tat" type of person but he pushed me to do it. He can have whatever tools he wnnts as long as he doesn't try to stop me from getting what I want (since I work and pay for it). I am not a high maintenance jewerly, cloths kind of girl..just fish and music. I want my tanks and iPod and he can have whatever toys he wants.

Tell him that. Any guy with a lick of sense, should be quite pleased with that mentality.

 

[MikenDanielle]

Sounds to me he doesn't care about the fish, but that you check mated him by taking his tools back on him. Id say he had no idea that you would do that and figured he would get away with it scott free... no, that you have acted, instead of admitting he was wrong, he would just rather come up with a great idea on his own (Which was actually your idea in the first place).

Possibly...

 

[dixienut]

thats what men do wait for you to come up with a solution and then claim it for their own..
in my opinion only..
from a wife of that kind of guy... hates fish and complaines of the expence and then buys broken farm tractors and never makes any money off of it, loses money and then tells me i'm wasting money.. buy likes the gas money that i get for selling fish and plants to the lfs..:mad2:

 

[tepelus]

my boyfriend isn't like that with the fish, pets, etc. But lately, cuz of it being the gardening season and i had not been able to garden for a few years, this house we're in gave me the option to do so, so i have been buying plants and landscaping. he complains about me buying too many plants now, but it's my money and i'm taking care of the beds i made and finish the ones i started. then he tells me that i can do whatever i want, as long as he doesn't have to weed. never asked him to pull a single weed. he prolly thought that since he bought a muscle car and has been putting money into that and i'm putting my money into his yard (technically, it is HIS house anyway) that perhaps he had better just let me do it. muscle cars much more expensive to buy, maintain and build than a flower bed, and does nothing to help improve the value of the house. just needed to get that off my back!

 

[divingne1]

My exhusband raced Mustangs all the time and spent a ton of money on them. I never complained and he never complained about me spending money on fish. Even when I bought a $150 fish (saltwater). Sure wish I could take some of my ex's qualities and mesh them with my husband now...GOD what a prize I would have.

 

[Swayde]

I guess I am really lucky. My husband doesn't care if I spend money on fish or anything as long as it makes me happy and it doesn't make us go broke (since I pay all the bills and handle all the finances I am careful to avoid going broke hehe). I don't work because I stay home with our son and homeschool him. Our money is our money, even when I did work though. His only hobby is computer games. We have over 100 different computer games and at least that many console games too. The computers to run the games can get pricey, but we use an employee purchase program for a new computer every 1-2 years to keep them current enough to handle all the games.