nursie said:My kids went to their own beds in their own rooms within a few nights. If they cried, they got attention right away,,but if they wiggled around and grunted and settled back down, not a problem. Mishi8..you are right that infants need to ahve their needs met to develop a sense of security. I couldn't sleep with them in the same room becasue they were noisey. When they were bogger, sometimes they would wake up at night and crawl in bead with us..no big deal, but it's rather crowded and we all slept more comfortably if everyone was in their own space. Our oldest kept wandering into ouir bed itn eh middle of the night...we finally got to where we'd take her back to her bed and lay down with her for a while to keep her company and get her away from sleeping in our bed.
Toddlers can get into this manipulitive behavior, and you ahve to set limits. IMO...kids belong in their own bed. How can you swing from the ceiling in the body harness wearing black leather with them in your bed??? Doesn't it wake then up??
LOL! We keep our body harness in the den. JK! The kids come to our room less as they get older. Just like breastfeeding, I see it as one more thing of babyhood/toddlerhood that will end soon enough...a small amount of time and effort on my part compared to the years of parenting I have ahead of me...and eventually my kids will want to have nothing to do with me anyway!
For those families who considering the bedroom simply as a place for all to sleep, obviously they have other spaces for having private fun.