You might have real agression issues in this tank - it is very small. If your male turns out to be a bully, she won't be able to get away from him. I would add 2-3 dither fish and LOTS of hiding places, caves, coconut shells, plants, etc. I have a very passive male and female in one of my ten's. They don't swim around much, don't really fight, but don't spawn either. They aren't that happy in such small quarters and as soon as I can clear out a 20g long, they will get moved into that.
Oh, dither fish - pencil fish would be a good choice- they are rather calm and don't eat fry. They do make a big difference with shy rams. If there are other fish swimming around the rams feel more comfortable about swimming around themselves.
Cathy