OK, we'll take those one at a time:
1. I get the composted peat and lava rock at Lowes. Any DIY store or gardening center should have them. I try to buy as little as possible at the LFS. Too expensive. I buy lava rock with about 1/2" to 1" size and then crush it myself. I try to wind up with about 1/8 inch grains.
2. The blasting sand comes from a local concrete material supplier. They're not nationwide but I'm sure you can find one locally. If not, try calling an industrial painting shop and ask where they get theirs. The blasting sand fines I save whenever I sift for proper grain size.
3.I get seachem onyx at the LFS.
4. When I clean the bottom I move the bell gently over the bottom far enough away from the substrate so I don't pick up the gravel. AS I keep heavily planted tanks lightly stocked with fish I don't have too much waste on the bottom from them. I keep kuhli loaches for bottom janitors and they take care of a lot of the waste.
5. I cover the bottom of the tank. I use the smallest pad heaters I can find.
For a corner tank I cover the tank bottom as well. Again, I use several small pads in stead of one big one just in case it gets too warm in the tank so I can unplug one or two if needed. Also, when a pad burns out a small one is easier to replace.
6. Some mixing occurs as I place tank decorations and during planting. I don't mix on purpose. Prior to hurricane Rita I had a 55 flat-back hex planted this way for ten years and never messed with the substrate. Now the plants from this aquarium are scattered among friends' tanks.
From 1979 to 1982 I was in the Navy stationed in Kamiseya, Japan. I found a LFS by accident (couldn't read the signs) and struck a three year friendship with the owner, a guy named Kenjiro. I was one of the only gaijins to frequent his store. He spoke a little English and I spoke a little Japanese but we both spoke fluent fish so we got along well. I learned to build my substrate from him. He had the most beautiful planted tanks I had ever seen.
Kenny (Kenjiro) had the patience of a saint with me as I tend to be mule-headed and argumentative. In spite of my best efforts to the contrary, I learned quite a bit from him. The LFS was in a city called Yamato. It was the first place I saw shrimp used for algae eaters. Thanks for the interest Kim. Remember, this is just one way. There are many others. Ask around and I'm sure you'll find alternative methods. Many of my cohorts around here find some of my methods to be the very definition of "overkill". Works for me.
Mark