hey dee... is it dee dee k?
ummm... guys... she may be an admitted fish addict or affectionately so called a fish geek but geek is not her name.
fishfriend... it would annoy me and many other people on this forum to see your fish housed inadequately. when they die you'll likely see no signs of stress either cause they're goldfish. i spent the last 2 years trying to get my mom to re-home hers. the last one died last month... looking spectacular might i add. that's one reason she felt either i was wrong or she still had some time before re-homing was a necessity.
many of the folks who have expressed their discontent in this thread actually agree with much of dees sentiments and think in lines closely paralleled to her thinking. spending a little time on this forum will make that evident, surely. it's just how the first post was written that struck people wrong, imo. only thing wrong with that is she put herself in a position to be judged and people love judging other people. as it is she too seemed to be very judgmental and that made her an easy target for those that feel the need for justification of their actions/words. it's not that she was wrong or doesn't have the right to have an opinion. she has sculpted her opinion through hard work and long hours researching attempting to understand certain things. for that i believe she has earned her opinion and should stand by it. but that's my opinion.
i think she is in a position where anybody would feel somewhat backed up against a wall (cornered) at this point. i would like to see her resume her regular stance in time as she's one person that does and deserves to hold her head up high. she has worked towards a difficult understanding and has gained much knowledge in that understanding. as well she's a welcomed, contributing member of this forum and doesn't deserve further ridicule by those that want to isolate a small portion of a bigger picture. she painted it one way and has gone out of her way to explain, retract or abandon much of what was mostly a mis-understanding. i believe she has proven to be an outstanding individual in a situation where most others (including many that have displayed their malcontent) would prove to be lesser citizens.
i believe it's high time she stop taking slack and start standing her ground on certain things. it's hard not to lower your standards or conform to the masses when your back is up against the wall. i do feel, however (and hopefully) that once this thread dies she will resume with HER opinion on things (whether that has changed slightly or not) and push forward being who SHE is on this site and post accordingly. that doesn't mean to me that she should not have had her eyes opened to certain things, just that not everything should need a complete 180 or an apology. if we can't take her opinion we need not be concerned with it. if she feels she cannot post it anymore than we've done wrong by her and that's the truth, plain and simple.
sorry to say but although the opening post leaves something to be desired i think some posters have taken things too far. i think she has been taken advantage of because she is seemingly cornered at this point and some posters that normally would have kept to themselves find comfort in numbers. think of it this way... if you read the first post and nobody had posted, if you wouldn't post at that point you should keep your comments to yourself, REALLY. if you have not read through and understood the entire thread you should keep your comments to yourself, REALLY! we've seen some eye-openers. we've seen some intelligent postings and discussion and we've seen some hollow statements that otherwise could not stand alone against this woman in any setting or context. those need to go and this thread needs to die a respectable death. dee has certainly gained more of my respect (she was never really void of it in the first place) by keeping her composure and expressing passion towards her ideals and compassion towards the opposition. for that, i believe she should be viewed as a good example of how to handle criticism at the very least.
RANT/OVER, hehehe
good luck and god speed dee
