How long did it take him to calm down. Mine have been at it for about 2 months. I really need to fine hime a female. None of the LFS have them. I even got them to order me so females but when they can in they were males.:22_yikes:Your gourami was probably picking at the plant to make his bubble nest. My male has finally calmed down his bubblenest building fever, but he would pick at my moss, Rotala rotundifolia, dying leaves of Wisteria, and even freshly planted baby Crypts in an attempt to make his nest bigger...