fiske said:
It looks like you are about to be flamed over tank size and lack of care . . .
Some will say you should have a 180+ gallon tank for three oscars and that would have kept your fish healthier. I have read the "how would you like living in a closet" argument on this forum multiple times, but in my opinion oscars and several other commonly kept South American cichlids are really just too big for any glass aquarium. A slightly larger "closet" would have helped you keep your water parameters healthier but the rot was inevitable.
Actually, Fiske, you did set this thread up for conflict by making this statement--it will cause confusion and frustration in the writer when what they are asking for is information, not assumptive criticism of other members of this site/forum.
"When I said that he was about to be torn a new one I was not necessarily referring to liv2padl . . . "
Oh? Then about whom were you referring? When posting on the 'net, one must carefully consider phrase and tenor with the understanding that others cannot hear your tone of voice, or necessarily read your intention. The written word can be limiting for many.
"Why ask for water parameters if all you are going to do is recommend regular water changes and testing anyway."
By now, surely you realize that a complete picture must be made, including photos, to discern where problems might stem from. How do you keep
your tanks? Are water conditions clean--and are they important? I ask you these questions just to have you realize that they are indeed extremely helpfulin diagnosing, not assuming.
"I was only answering his question instead of talking down to him, setting him up for the "oh your water quality and fish keeping skills are horrible," and throwing the fix-all clean water answer at him."
Yes, there are some people posting on this site who seem to live to flame (I recall reading one person's statement just to that--and he does it regularly). There are those who may indeed be "talking down" to others--this is an unfortunate practice but exists whereever do humans--I have seen it for years in the academic world, and it generally stems from the person's insecurities. However, for you to second-guess anyone who may be posting in the thread is, once again, ASSumptive. There is nothing that indicates who will say what, unless you are a literal mindreader. You, my dear sir, are the one guilty of "setting him up" to expect harassment and negative responses at this site. Not to forget, people who are trying to help do NOT throw "the fix-all clean water answer"--they methodically gather as much information as possible in order to provide the most helpful recommendations to help the fish. If they aren't actually scientists, they usually follow scientific methodology learned over time working within this hobby.
"Yes clean water will help but what he described is most likely Hexamita, his water parameters will only tell you how fast he can expect his oscars to die from a secondary bacterial infection. A picture is what we need to be fairly certain that it is Hexamita."
Here, you once again offer an assumptive answer without having all the information--they are Oscars, therefore the described "rot" MUST be HITH, therefore. . . what if it's something else? And, finally, what if the needed photo is not possible because: a) no camera available or b) good, clear pix cannot be taken.
This is not written/meant as a flame, call out, put-down, assumption, or psychological summation of who you are. It is simply an attempt at helping you to see how immediately you created a negative situation for the poster and any other newbies who are just trying to learn. This site has been one of the best for rapid assistance with problems, advice on numerous topics, and the folks have even tried helping TROLLS before they realize it's a bogus thread. And no, don't assume I am calling you a troll; read it again--I said there had been trolls. And immature people, teenage and adult. Do you treat people in this way at work? or at school, if you don't work? or your friends? Carefully weigh your words and how you use them, please. Most humbly, and thank you for your time. ~r