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Blinky

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Hey all, just needed to share something. I found out a few weeks ago that my aunt was sick, but we thought it was just a problem with her thyroid. Turns out it's adenocarcinoma - she has end-stage cancer. My husband and my mom are sick with a horrible cold, so none of us have been able to go see her due to the risk of infection. My uncle came by today and gave us some horrible news. We had been hoping to go see her today since everyone's recovered from the virus, but she took a major turn for the worse yesterday and the doctors said she might not make it through the night. She's got tumors in her lungs, thyroid, and they think the cancer is in her bones now. She has several major blood clots and can't breathe on her own any more. I'm so sad, she's such a wonderful person, it just doesn't seem fair. She's on blood thinners, morphine and a machine is breathing for her now. They've given her drugs to help her rest, so at least she's not in pain right now. It's just such a horrible situation, I wanted to post and ask everyone for some prayers.
 
Blinky,

I'm so sorry to hear about your aunt. I will definitely pray for her and you.

God bless you both.
 
So sorry to hear about your aunt. Go see her. Even when people are sedated, a lot of times they can still hear, so let her know you are there for her.
 
Oh, believe me we wanted to. We weren't permitted to see her today - they intibated (sp?) her and because of the blood thinners she had a major hemmorhage. They refused to allow my uncle access to her for a while today, let alone visitors. At one point he said there were two doctors and two nurses working on her for over an hour and afterwards they said she couldn't have anyone come see her as she needed complete peace and quiet. As soon as we're allowed we'll be there; it's really hard to sit at home and not even be able to go see her, I'm anxiously waiting for my uncle to call and say it's okay.
 
Sorry to hear about her.

Maybe time to talk to doctors. I think if she was in final stages and not long for this world, what harm is there in people coming to see her and say their last goodbyes? It might ease some of her suffering/pain to know that her family & friends care deeply for her enough to pay respect. I think it would be sad if she was in the room all alone and last moments of life, she was aware no one came to see her.

My brother died of blood vessel bursting in his brain. They operated and he lived for 10 days afterwards. But he was never the same & had he lived, would have been sent to nursing home(at age 20). He had trouble communicating and could not feed or care for himself. We were all allowed to visit as much as we wanted. Night before he passed, i sat at bed and talked to him about all we had done in past together and hoped he would get better so we could do more stuff. He looked like he understood even if he couldn't respond. Next morning, our mother went to see him in hospital before she went to work. She said something told her she needed to go. While she was there and talking to him, he reached up, removed the oxygen mask & said, "I love you, mama" as plain as day and then died.
 
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I can understand your pain, unfortunately too well.
My Mom went in for an elective surgery on March 25. They didn't sooner get her to her room when they had to rush back to surgery because she started bleeding out. She came back to her room after that surgery (took 5 hrs.), then on Sat. around 9 pm she started the bleeding all over again. Even though she was on a respirator she was able to write and shake her head yes agreeing to the 3rd surgery. She slipped into a coma after that and survived for 9 days. Last Sunday the Drs. told me that wanted to do a 4th surgery and when I told my Dad that he said it was time to let her go. My family certainly agreed with him. After taking her off the machines she passed away after 45 mins. Her memorial was this past Friday.
She died with my sister and I holding her hands. Her 2 granddaughters were also with her.
What gets me through this is seeing her hooked up to all the machines and knowing how upset she would have been. I also agree with Nursie. Even if your loved one is in a coma, talk to them. They can hear you. She was 85 and had a great life and gave my Dad a great life.
Now I worry myself sick about my Dad. He is 85 (same as my Mom) He can't even cook.
My aunt died this past Tues. 2 doors down from my Mom at the hospital. She was my Mom's sister.
 
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Sorry to hear about the horrible situation.
My heart goes out to you and your family.
This story has helped me through rough times.

"Footprints in the Sand"

One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord.
Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky.
In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand.
Sometimes there were two sets of footprints,
other times there was one only.
This bothered me because I noticed that during the low periods of my life,
when I was suffering from anguish,
sorrow or defeat,
I could see only one set of footprints,
so I said to the Lord,
“You promised me Lord,
that if I followed you,
you would walk with me always.
But I have noticed that during the most trying periods of my life
there has only been one set of footprints in the sand.
Why, when I needed you most, have you not been there for me?”
The Lord replied,
“The years when you have seen only one set of footprints,
my child, is when I carried you."
 
Thank you all for being so kind and sharing - I'm so sorry for all you've gone through too.
Sublime, Footprints has been my favourite poem as long as I can remember - thanks for that. :)
I just keep crying, keep hoping, keep praying, and it really is making things easier knowing people care.
 
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