Thanks for all the help everyone!
Yes, it seems to be going well now. NitrItes are staying at 0, now I'm just fighting ammonia (between .25 and .5). Still doing PWCs nightly, and going to vac tonight. I am also thinking that the boys have been feeding more than they should. I hide the food because my 8 yr old is mildly autistic, but I think I will be finding a better hiding place and doing some educating.
And I don't want you all to think there are more LFS idiots in Indiana... no one told us we could start with neons and oto's. We've had aquariums before, and just been extremely lucky I guess. We had a 10g, a 25g and a 30g before we moved three years ago. We had always done fishy cycles with no trouble, but we had always started with Zebra Danios. The boys just happened to pick the neons this time. I did a little research on Neons before purchasing, so please don't think I just went out and bought some "pretty fish" mindlessly. But, apparently I should have researched cycling a bit more -- it's just that we had never had any of these emergency issues in the past, and we had never lost ANY fish before either. And the only help I had was a few books from the library.
I just ran into a old friend at WalMart last night and found out that her husband has an aquarium business!! He sets up and maintains very large units for businesses. So, I'm getting a very thorough education now!
And, I'm addicted already! Just asked hubby for at least a 30g for my birthday! Before anyone freaks out... from now on, we do fishless cycles all the way!!!
Thanks again everyone! We truly appreciated your help!
Nadine & boys