I need to vent, please (long).

[happychem]

Well Leo, it sounds like you're going through a lot. It sucks and I wish you the best and hope that it all works out.

I can't really understand how bad it is, I thought that my MIL was overbearing, irritating, and unduely stressing my wife until I read your post. In retrospect she was a gem. Although her brand of stress was just the opposite of yours. My MIL wanted to do everything, she did the courthouse wedding (she and the FIL were already pregnant with the BIL, which wasn't so cool back then ) and was determined that her daughter's wedding would be perfect (in her eyes, of course). So she nitpicked the wife about every little detail. She also wanted to give us more money, like for the things that my wife refused to do on the basis of cost vs. worth.

My wife was also pretty crafty, she also found her dream dress for $100 canadian at the bridal shop's "warehouse", which from her description means last year's fashions . In the end we had a great wedding with our family and friends. I know that it's not on topic with the thread, but I just felt like adding a little positive anecdote to all the bad wedding stories. They can happen and I hope and wish that your wedding goes off without a hitch and that you and Chris have a blast (despite all the crap leading up to it).

 

[greeneyedlady]

I got married in the court house and when I read things like this I thank goodness I did. My husband and I were brats. We made the apt to get married, told our families the week before that we were getting married, when and where and they could be there if they wanted.
Pissed people off but oh well. I'd graduated from college that spring and had a big fight with mom and dad on who I could invite to that and saw the handwriting on the wall then. Besides..they should have known. Our best friends got married. They told their parent the night before :clap:

I can top you Nursie my husband and I wanting to avoid all the family "garbage" so we got married and didn't tell anyone for 3 months
when we did tell everyone they all had fits, oh well we shugged the deed is done.

 

[Leopardess]

Happy - thank you! I'm glad things can go well, too! LOL.

Thanks everyone for sharing your stories. Eloping or having no family there really isn't our style as we always like to include everyone in things.

I read everyone's and when I have more time I'll post again. The girls should be here soon....

 

[sky.eyes.woman]

I don't have anything real helpful to say, except that it sucks your family members are not living up to their promises regarding your wedding plans. I do really think all the stress you are feeling now will fall away when you walk down that aisle. You won't have to go through this again.
FWIW, it always helps me to put up my feet, have a cocktail and listen to some Bob Marley. Take a few minutes for yourself and do that. You'll be surprised at how much better it makes you feel. :cool2:

 

[Leopardess]

Sky - I've been listening to Aerosmith and Jimi Hendrix all morning. It's a good day

Figure I should simmer down before I delve into the packing chore that must be done today.