I think I am cracking up and burned out
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Your ex-idiot should show a little more respect for you... the person who has raised these children (dealing with problems, schooling,sickness and everything else that goes with being a fulltime parent) when he couldn't even bother to pick up a phone for 6 months. A little advance notice is not too much to ask especially with the age of your children. I'm sure they make plans that they don't want to change because of short notice. And I'm not sure what your situation is like, but my son is 13 and I have come to the point where if he isn't interested in going with his father, he is not forced to go. I checked with my lawyer and even with a court order, at 13, its pretty much up to the child...within reason. Glad you have some support at home. Hope all goes well for you and your family.
GEL, I feel for you.
working at an attorney's office, I have to ask-there isn't any statute in the domestic codes that let's the children choose whether to see him or not at a certain age, is there? Some states have them, some don't...
If you really wanted to be nasty, you could tell your kids that they get a free pass on anything they do at dad's house :Angel: :Angel:
working at an attorney's office, I have to ask-there isn't any statute in the domestic codes that let's the children choose whether to see him or not at a certain age, is there? Some states have them, some don't...
If you really wanted to be nasty, you could tell your kids that they get a free pass on anything they do at dad's house :Angel: :Angel:
Is that sort of like, "What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas"?saltyc said:
GEL, I really wish there was something I could do for you other than offer up sympathy, a willing ear to bend and just encourage you to hang in there and see what you can do. If the children are this upset, a lawyer may be able to help. Also, is there even a remote chance that your ex-idiot would be willing to sit down with you, the kids and a counsellor for some family therapy? If the idiot saw and heard the emotion from you and the kids, it might make him a little more understanding and sympathetic. In fact, if he wants to be super dad, challenge him to put up or shut up by going and sitting on the couch for a 50 minute hour.
Just another offer of support--I wish I had some great advice, but unfortunately, I'm particularly unsympathetic to psycho exes, so my only thought would involve finding another place to hide a body.
Hang in there--let the kids know that it's okay for them to be upset by this, and to communicate that to their 'donor' dud. I mean dad.
Hang in there--let the kids know that it's okay for them to be upset by this, and to communicate that to their 'donor' dud. I mean dad.
Oh believe me I tried to get them to communicate with numb nuts, he wasn't interested in their opinion, he just laid railroad tracks right over them, it was not a good experience for the 17 or 14 year old. Hence the 17 yr old moving out for the summer to my mom's place. My son knows that my mother wouldn't think twice before putting a bullet in the ex's head, if he even tried to put a toe over the line. The ex is terrified of my mother, comes in handy sometimes, she can be talking to you so nice and sweet and 10 minutes after she's gone you realize that she has taken you apart limb from limb if you tick her off. 
I would suggest talking to a lawyer as well. I'm with foo on being unsympathetic toward ex-idiots, eventhough I haven't had much experience in that department. It still upsets me that people can't just be more considerate, especially if there are children involved in the matter. You'd think some people would have more decency. :mad2:
If I could, I'd probably help you kick some sense into your ex and the aggravating people at your work. Well, at least you've got a good hubby to be there for you. Talking things out isn't a bad idea if it can be done, but if the ex starts any crap as far as not acting civil in the matter, I'd get a lawyer and go from there. I wish you luck, and a clear way out of this.
If I could, I'd probably help you kick some sense into your ex and the aggravating people at your work. Well, at least you've got a good hubby to be there for you. Talking things out isn't a bad idea if it can be done, but if the ex starts any crap as far as not acting civil in the matter, I'd get a lawyer and go from there. I wish you luck, and a clear way out of this.
well....um ...i happen to be in the other shoe at the moment ..i am the girlfriend who is trying to get the guy to see his kids ..and its been a much better situation for us ..fortunatly....my reasoning is a bit differant ..considering i have a child to this man and i think that its not healthy ...but i understand your point having been in that situation as well with my daughter ....maybe you should find out about the age limits in your state ...i know that in delawere the age they allow children to decide ..is at 13 and some states its 11...maybe if the kids really dont want him around ..the best route would be allowing them to talk to a judge ...good luck !
GEL..if mom is loaded and ready, send the rest of the kids to see her. Also, if the kids don't want to see dad would the judge not take their wishes into consideration?
I feel for you too.
My brother and Sister-in-law are dealing with legal dealings between the biological dad of their oldest two.
That man is a major S***head.(Both yours and ours.
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My brother and Sister-in-law are dealing with legal dealings between the biological dad of their oldest two.
That man is a major S***head.(Both yours and ours.
)