Is a Loyal Boyfriend Hard to Find?
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My advice.......get involved in doing things you enjoy doing.....you like aquariums ?....get involved in a local aquarium club...go to any aquarium type gatherings you can get to, you'll find fellas who share the interest and you start out by having something in common to talk about and enjoy together....
When you do meet someone, I'm sure you will sooner or later........pay attention to how he talks about his parents..ESPECIALLY his Mom !!....Very Important in my opinion...having been there and done that ! ..... (do this right off the bat, because you don't want to be wasting any of your time or his if things aren't going to work out)
Is he respectful to them ? Does he love and respect his mother ?? Because I'll tell you right here and now, if he has no respect for HER...he sure isn't going to be treating you any different sooner or later down the road...believe me ! (But that's getting way ahead of things here....lol...first you want to meet him !)
I've been out of the dating game for a long time now.....bout 20 years, so I don't know what things are like out there now....but they can't be much different...lol....same game and all..........
All the best to you Riso...hope you two find each other soon !
OH...and DON'T move in with him !!! All the so called "logical" reasons for doing so suck wind....sorry, but they do ! If he wants the priviledge of living with you and all the benefits that apply to that arrangement....make him earn it by walking down the aisle with you......
When you do meet someone, I'm sure you will sooner or later........pay attention to how he talks about his parents..ESPECIALLY his Mom !!....Very Important in my opinion...having been there and done that ! ..... (do this right off the bat, because you don't want to be wasting any of your time or his if things aren't going to work out)
Is he respectful to them ? Does he love and respect his mother ?? Because I'll tell you right here and now, if he has no respect for HER...he sure isn't going to be treating you any different sooner or later down the road...believe me ! (But that's getting way ahead of things here....lol...first you want to meet him !)
I've been out of the dating game for a long time now.....bout 20 years, so I don't know what things are like out there now....but they can't be much different...lol....same game and all..........
All the best to you Riso...hope you two find each other soon !
OH...and DON'T move in with him !!! All the so called "logical" reasons for doing so suck wind....sorry, but they do ! If he wants the priviledge of living with you and all the benefits that apply to that arrangement....make him earn it by walking down the aisle with you......
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I've been single for 4 years. I'm 24 next month. I've had my chances with some great looking girls that were not so great inside, and with some great girls that were not good looking. In most cases, I declined anything other than friendship. Now I have new friends that are worth more than failed relationships. Now one of theose female friends has a buddy who I am actually interested in. Will this new relationship lead to marraige, happiness, whatever? Who knows? But I waited till I found what I felt was right. It is worth it to be picky. You should give yourself the best that you deserve and don't settle for second best. As for faithfull guys, we do exsist. Another good piece of advice is not to be discouraged by one failed relationship. It might happen first try, but finding the right person usually takes time, trial and error. It's ok to casually date, with no commitment(as long as that is mutually agreed on), that way you can test the waters before you dive in head first.
Keep your head up!!!!! The good guys love confidence, and the bad ones thrive on weakness.
Keep your head up!!!!! The good guys love confidence, and the bad ones thrive on weakness.
A loyal girlfriend is harder to find. 
Honestly, its more luck than anything. Im the same age as you (21) and Ive been in a relationship for 5 years now. But my girlfriend and I have both changed alot during that time, and our relationship is more rocky now than ever before.
Honestly, its more luck than anything. Im the same age as you (21) and Ive been in a relationship for 5 years now. But my girlfriend and I have both changed alot during that time, and our relationship is more rocky now than ever before.
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My advice: Look for a friend first (not a boyfriend/potential life-long mate). If you're lucky, the person you end up with "for life" will be your best friend.
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Women: Want one man to satisfy their every need.
Men: Want every woman to satisfy their one need.
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Women: Want one man to satisfy their every need.
Men: Want every woman to satisfy their one need.
I know how you feel Riso!! I'm 25, and been with my now husband for quite a while, but before that I was going out alot with my friends and meeting guys and thinking this is what I have to choose from?!!? There have got to be nicer guys out there :mad2: . My dream man turned out to be one of my brothers friends who I happened to run into at my dads house one night and things took off from there!! I agree its hard to "look" for someone.
Maybe you could drag one of your single friends out to one of those speed dating things?? I think those sound rather entertaining!!
Maybe you could drag one of your single friends out to one of those speed dating things?? I think those sound rather entertaining!!
There is an essay written by John Alan Lee titled "Styles of Loving". I can't find it anywhere online, but its in my textbook. It will basicly give a scientific/psychological view on types of relationships. I found it very interesting.
As far as meeting others, try joining clubs like others have said. I can off the bat you like aquariums (you're on this site) and anime (your avatar)
: . Theres TONS of anime clubs around, and lots of anime conventions. I recomend everyone attend an anime convention, its lots of fun
As far as meeting others, try joining clubs like others have said. I can off the bat you like aquariums (you're on this site) and anime (your avatar)
: . Theres TONS of anime clubs around, and lots of anime conventions. I recomend everyone attend an anime convention, its lots of fun 
just take your time .. it will hit you in the face before you know it ..
I had been in a 14yr abusive relationship .. had been with the guy since i was 19 and left him when i was 33 .. first of all dont take crap from no guy .. if he respects you he will not do the wrong things ..like cheat and lie ..
i have been married just over 3 yrs now to a wonderfull guy i met on the net.. he is 9 yrs younger then me and when i first met him on line.. i was 33 and he was 24.. i thought he was even to young to talk to ..
. but i thought what the heck we are just chatting .. well we started talking more and more and more and next thin i knew we were talking every night for hours and even on the phone for about 2 to 3 hrs at a time .. well next thing i knew i was on the bus from Canada down to Oregon to meet him and we hit it off so well .. we hit it off very well on the net that i was so comfortable meeting him in person... i spent a week with him and went back ..(didnt want to go back) ..lol... well i ended up movieng down here with him .. and 2 1/2 yrs later we got married .. we have been together now for 6 yrs .. and he is a wonderfull man . i dont regret leaveing canada and goin through all the immigration bull**** red tape ..for him .. so like i said .. ya dont need to go looking for it .. it will just happen before you know it .. it will just hit you in the face .. and being young .. you have lots of time .. dont rush ..
Marn
I had been in a 14yr abusive relationship .. had been with the guy since i was 19 and left him when i was 33 .. first of all dont take crap from no guy .. if he respects you he will not do the wrong things ..like cheat and lie ..
i have been married just over 3 yrs now to a wonderfull guy i met on the net.. he is 9 yrs younger then me and when i first met him on line.. i was 33 and he was 24.. i thought he was even to young to talk to ..
. but i thought what the heck we are just chatting .. well we started talking more and more and more and next thin i knew we were talking every night for hours and even on the phone for about 2 to 3 hrs at a time .. well next thing i knew i was on the bus from Canada down to Oregon to meet him and we hit it off so well .. we hit it off very well on the net that i was so comfortable meeting him in person... i spent a week with him and went back ..(didnt want to go back) ..lol... well i ended up movieng down here with him .. and 2 1/2 yrs later we got married .. we have been together now for 6 yrs .. and he is a wonderfull man . i dont regret leaveing canada and goin through all the immigration bull**** red tape ..for him .. so like i said .. ya dont need to go looking for it .. it will just happen before you know it .. it will just hit you in the face .. and being young .. you have lots of time .. dont rush ..Marn
I agree with some of the advice here. Don't worry about finding 'the one'. You know how it is when you're trying to find that book you were reading last month? You look everywhere, even really dumb places...And you tend to find the book once you quit looking and give it up for lost. So just be patient, have fun, be happy. Do what makes you happy and comfortable, and don't worry about being judged for it.
