Just wondering, which would you chose?

Harlock said:
I'm a stay-at-home dad... what's that tell ya?
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Frequent water changes???
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Harlock said:
If we had waited until our careers took off or until we could "afford" a child, we'd be childless still. The fact of the matter is you find a way. Our career paths are not at all what we had planned or hoped for. I was diagnosed Bipolar in 2000 and thanks to the medicines I have to take and the unpredictabuility of the illness, I'll probably have trouble holding any job for more than a year or two for the rest of my life. Good news is, if I don't have to be around "people" I can generally keep the stressors down and handle family duties. I can guarantee you if I had been diagnosed Bipolar before we had our first child and I had lived through all that I did those first two years, there is no way in heck I'd have started a family. I am so thankful, every day for my children and my wife. They give me something to be well for. They keep me focused outward and not inward.
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I know what you mean. I am also bipolar and do not work. I do not have a family yet, but I would like one some day.
 
Thanks you all for your posts. We were of the attitude that we should just wait till we can afford children but as was said we would prob never have any cos we would never be able to afford them!!
We are trying now but may take some time as i have a few problems. Any tips you have on concieving happily (dont worry, i know the obvious one!! :laugh: ) would be great. Any herbal remadies that help or exercises. Ta. Hopefully this year i will be posting that i am pregnant!!!!
Take care
Thanks all
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You know, it's interesting the little games that life plays on you. I was convinced that I wanted a career and maybe have a kid or 2. I had found the right guy, and got married out of college. Well, mother nature took things in hand and we had our oldest right away, and my whole priorities changed. Instead of climbing the career ladder..I more focused my efforts on the kids, their activities. I work, I didn't go to 4 yrs of college to sit home, but I work a job that's days during the week and leaves time for other stuff. I was on the school board for 10 yrs, president of the parents club for a couple of years, put in a lot of time with school activiites. I has planned to get my masters degree as soon as my kids could read and be more independant...and then they became more active..and I became more active in their activities.
Fortunately for me that there are a lot of different jobs in nursing and I have one with good flexibility, but I am certainly not where I thought I'd be today when I started out 24 yrs ago. I haven't regretted anything..it's just interesting to look back and tsee I didn't do what I tought I would .

It is so true that fertility changes as you age, especially for women. We had a couple that we went to college with and they played the "lets wait until our carreers are established" game before they had kids and had a really hard time conceving, finally going the fertility specialist route.
 
Well, it is a very mature and responsible thing to do to wait until you can afford children to have them. If by saying you are not “financially ready” because you want that new house with 4 bedrooms, and 2-3 cars... that is the wrong reason not to have kids. But if your definition of broke equates you to barely getting by now, or are at the poverty line as it is, and cannot ever see having money to send your child off to college so s/he can have the life s/he would like, having kids just because "you want them" isn't wise.

A career can be just as fulfilling as those who choose to have kids, and visa-versa. At least that is what I got out of this conversation. And hey – in this day and age, who says you cannot have both?
 
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