Well, I picked up another male today.
I'm in the middle of replacing one of those 6 place divided betta tanks that I have in my office at work (that only had one betta-who had the run of the whole unit-in it) with an Eclipse 5, so I picked up some driftwood, some live plants, some tubifex and the biggest male Kribensis they had-who's still about 1/4" shorter than the female.
I threw him in the tank about two hours ago (the 30 that is, not the 5G with the betta :lol2: ); I didn't see a need to quarantine him at this point as the tank is a new setup and everything in the tank he came out of was perfectly healthy. He's not eaten yet, and he's still faded, but that's normal in my book for having only been dumped in a couple of hours ago.
I picked up another terra cotta cave and put it on the left side of the tank under the fake rock and while he has the option to use it, he's not hiding away the way the previous male did.
The female has chased him around the tank and nipped at him, and he took to hiding behind the filter intake at the top of the tank where she wasn't looking for him for about 10 minutes, but I'm not seeing anything that I would call abnormal aggression, just sorting out the new guy's place in the pecking order.
//Ed: Pretty sure the male just ate. I just went to check on the wood I'm boiling and glanced into the tank; the top of the sponge filter had a dissolved spirulina tablet on it from last night that the otos and the plec didn't get to, and he was sitting up there next to it with most of it gone, so he either knocked it off or ate it. *shrug*
Just to be safe I'm going to try to set up a spare 5 gallon tank I have today or tomorrow as an isolation tank in case he needs it, but I think he'll do OK. The female seems to have decided about 10 minutes ago that he's allowed to be in the same general area of the tank as her, so I expect they'll do fine.
On a related note, the female appears to be trying to dig a little nest in the gravel in the right corner of the tank between the sponge filter, the fake plants and the tank glass. She spends what seems to be a decent amount of time in that spot running the other fish (mostly the otocinclus) out of the area and mouthing at the gravel, but the pieces are too big for her to grip in her mouth. I hadn't really planned on putting Kribs in this tank when I set it up, so hopefully it won't cause a problem for her; I'm not really inclined to do a substrate swap on a 6 week old tank. :irked: