Another update...
I let the female out again tonight. The male had been spending a lot of his time around her cage so I figured they'd do OK together.
Like last time, they were fine for a few minutes. Swam around together, flared their fins at each other and that was mostly it. She went into one of the pots, he tried to follow but changed his mind. Then they started bickering again. The male pushed back this time, but I can't really tell if what they're doing is normal behavior, courting, or just beating on each other that needs to be stopped; kribs are the first remotely aggressive cichlid that I've kept more than one per tank, so...
Anyhow, I grabbed a short video, which I put on youtube here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yrdEFB2XAFI
They spent a solid 3-5 minutes, maybe longer, going after each other like that with short breaks. He's now back up in the top 1/3 of the tank and she's ignoring him. He's not really faded at all, but both of them are (as one might expect) breathing hard.
So what do you think: Leave her in or pull her again?