Well the ex had filed to take me back to court to lower his child support, the court date was today and low and behold what do I see but my parent's wanting to stick it to me. The mother figure wanted to testify, but the judge said sorry, your voice is on the wrong side and you have no business with court today. The mother figure than asked if she could submit a letter supposedly written by my son figure "P" (he moved in with her you see). Well the judge turned to me and asked if it was okay for him to read the letter, I informed the judge that I did not know of the letter's existence. The judge turned and said bailiff 'please take that letter and give it to Ms. G". The bailiff being a good man did just that, and then the judge requested that we read the letter and then let him know if he was allowed to read it as well. Well what do you think; it was obvious the letter was written by the mother figure. The language and the tone were far above what my son could achieve. The letter accused my new husband and me of physical and mental abuse, it further stated that we forced the son figure to cook and clean everyday for the whole family (while being fettered in chains of course) and that we forced him to baby sit his younger brother and sister all the time. That we beat him on a continual basis with a belt and of course kept him in a dark, dank and dusky dungeon filled with undesirable vermin and other assorted animals that were not house broken and we forced him to get down on his hands and knees to clean it up every day.
Now you can imagine my shock and disbelief at reading this letter which they had notarized for legalities sake, and my new husband and I stood there with our jaws agape, the judge said "now no making faces, just let me know if I may read the letter" I spoke very respectfully and told the judge no that the letter was slanderous and did not have a single true line in it and he would be wasting his time. He then said 'bailiff return that piece of paper to them I no longer want it in this room".
And the bailiff did his job.
I could feel the waves of anger coming from the mother figure all the way over on my side of the court, as she was stopped in her tracks while trying to stick the sword in my back.
Then the judge turned to me and said please would you all like to come into my chambers where we can talk some of this out and see if we could come to some sort of agreement on this issue of child support and get to the real reason we are here. So off we all went; my husband and I, my ex and the parental units. I am sure that my ex must have thought that having my parents there on his side would give him the win, but unfortunately it made him and them look very badly to the judge and he let them know that.
We sat down in his courthouse office all cheery and nice then the judge turned to my ex and said what is it you want? You asked for a reduction in your child support and are not entitled to it and in fact are paying less than the guidelines state I could award her the entire amount and you would have to pay. You are too dumb to know when to keep your mouth shut. Now the judge said what do you want? My ex in his thickheaded way opened his mouth and said that he wanted Phillip to get his child support sent directly to Phillip's grandmother. Well this I can not do he said however I can ask his mother her opinion in the matter. He turned to me and said what are you thoughts on this issue. I calmly sat there for about a second or two looked up at the judge and stated I had no problem with the money being given to my son directly not to the parental units. My ex thinking he was smelling fear and blood in my corner swiftly attacked and said I want her to pay him child support too and to have to pay all the child support from June 15th to today as well.
The judge then sat back in his chair and steepled his fingers on his desk and just stared, it seemed like hours although probably only a few seconds. The judge then pointed his boney finger at my ex and sneered you are stupid, you don't realize when some one is trying to help you, the next time you need to bring an attorney or at least have talked to one before you enter my court again. The mother figure wanted some kind of agreement on this money issue you see. The judge turned to her and to the father unit and then to the ex and said I am going to tell all of you something very simple and I want you all to listen to it very carefully because it is the law in black and white, the child support dose not by law belong to the child it does in fact belong to his mother, she doesn’t have to give you anything and she is actually higher on the score card than you three who are consistently trying to attack her. The money belongs to the mother and she can get up and walk out that door and not ever have to pay you a dime. However she is not saying that, she is being reasonable and kind. My ex still being stupid nearly squeaked in outrage but that is not fair. Oh but it is fair the judge said. She has to maintain a house pay bills and buy groceries, all those things benefit the children involved. Your son could change his mind next week and say I want to live with mom. The judge repeated his earlier comment about the ex’s lack of mental ability to learn to keep his mouth shut. The mother figures’ smile was almost brittle by that time. The judge said now you can petition the court to take custody of your grandson and then that would be a whole other issue, however he said I do not recommend it, not one bit. Because then you all have to join in joint counseling until the matter is settled to the courts satisfaction and not yours. When your grandson came to your house and wanted to live with you, you should have told him no, that he needed to solve his problems at home and not try and run away from them. Further by allowing him to dodge his mother and not speak to her you have done a very bad thing. If you have to pick up the phone and dial your daughter’s number and give the phone to your grandson and tell him your mother is on the phone and you need to at least say hello to her. You have to raise above all this pettiness and that is what this is all about personality conflicts, with you continually trying to attack the boy’s mother and I will not have it. And I do not want to hear that you have been disrespecting her to anyone her especially her new husband who you see could have caused you much nastiness had he decided to influence the boy’s mother to act in a negative way. Do you realize he said to the parental units that his mother could have caused you a lot of trouble and grief, for goodness sakes man she could have sent the police? And they would have bodily removed the child from your home and hand delivered him to his mother. His mother over here gets a gold star for not having done so, that speaks to her being more concerned with her son than with money. It also show’s that despite what you are trying to do to her, she trusts you and knows that the boy will come to no harm under your care. A big star for mom, you however get none, your money grubbiness is unseemly and does not belong here or anywhere. The judge turned to the ex with a sigh and said sir get your head out of your wallet and start having some concern for your children instead, this nonsense is not healthy for the children involved.
I felt some of the tension start to ease as I have been awake since Sunday at 5 pm and it is now Tuesday at 1 am. And I can still not sleep you see. Because as soon as we left the office the mother figure ran over to the office to pick up the forms to get custody awarded to her and the father figure, so that they would get more money. So you see it is still not over this money grabbing they try to do, unfortunately for them they will have to face the same judge again. And he will probably shake his head and say I told you not to do it and instead see that you are here, once again to pester me with your pettiness and to attack the boy’s mother, who deserves respect from one and all.
So this is where I have been you see, lurking and visiting with misery.
Now you can imagine my shock and disbelief at reading this letter which they had notarized for legalities sake, and my new husband and I stood there with our jaws agape, the judge said "now no making faces, just let me know if I may read the letter" I spoke very respectfully and told the judge no that the letter was slanderous and did not have a single true line in it and he would be wasting his time. He then said 'bailiff return that piece of paper to them I no longer want it in this room".
And the bailiff did his job.
I could feel the waves of anger coming from the mother figure all the way over on my side of the court, as she was stopped in her tracks while trying to stick the sword in my back.
Then the judge turned to me and said please would you all like to come into my chambers where we can talk some of this out and see if we could come to some sort of agreement on this issue of child support and get to the real reason we are here. So off we all went; my husband and I, my ex and the parental units. I am sure that my ex must have thought that having my parents there on his side would give him the win, but unfortunately it made him and them look very badly to the judge and he let them know that.
We sat down in his courthouse office all cheery and nice then the judge turned to my ex and said what is it you want? You asked for a reduction in your child support and are not entitled to it and in fact are paying less than the guidelines state I could award her the entire amount and you would have to pay. You are too dumb to know when to keep your mouth shut. Now the judge said what do you want? My ex in his thickheaded way opened his mouth and said that he wanted Phillip to get his child support sent directly to Phillip's grandmother. Well this I can not do he said however I can ask his mother her opinion in the matter. He turned to me and said what are you thoughts on this issue. I calmly sat there for about a second or two looked up at the judge and stated I had no problem with the money being given to my son directly not to the parental units. My ex thinking he was smelling fear and blood in my corner swiftly attacked and said I want her to pay him child support too and to have to pay all the child support from June 15th to today as well.
The judge then sat back in his chair and steepled his fingers on his desk and just stared, it seemed like hours although probably only a few seconds. The judge then pointed his boney finger at my ex and sneered you are stupid, you don't realize when some one is trying to help you, the next time you need to bring an attorney or at least have talked to one before you enter my court again. The mother figure wanted some kind of agreement on this money issue you see. The judge turned to her and to the father unit and then to the ex and said I am going to tell all of you something very simple and I want you all to listen to it very carefully because it is the law in black and white, the child support dose not by law belong to the child it does in fact belong to his mother, she doesn’t have to give you anything and she is actually higher on the score card than you three who are consistently trying to attack her. The money belongs to the mother and she can get up and walk out that door and not ever have to pay you a dime. However she is not saying that, she is being reasonable and kind. My ex still being stupid nearly squeaked in outrage but that is not fair. Oh but it is fair the judge said. She has to maintain a house pay bills and buy groceries, all those things benefit the children involved. Your son could change his mind next week and say I want to live with mom. The judge repeated his earlier comment about the ex’s lack of mental ability to learn to keep his mouth shut. The mother figures’ smile was almost brittle by that time. The judge said now you can petition the court to take custody of your grandson and then that would be a whole other issue, however he said I do not recommend it, not one bit. Because then you all have to join in joint counseling until the matter is settled to the courts satisfaction and not yours. When your grandson came to your house and wanted to live with you, you should have told him no, that he needed to solve his problems at home and not try and run away from them. Further by allowing him to dodge his mother and not speak to her you have done a very bad thing. If you have to pick up the phone and dial your daughter’s number and give the phone to your grandson and tell him your mother is on the phone and you need to at least say hello to her. You have to raise above all this pettiness and that is what this is all about personality conflicts, with you continually trying to attack the boy’s mother and I will not have it. And I do not want to hear that you have been disrespecting her to anyone her especially her new husband who you see could have caused you much nastiness had he decided to influence the boy’s mother to act in a negative way. Do you realize he said to the parental units that his mother could have caused you a lot of trouble and grief, for goodness sakes man she could have sent the police? And they would have bodily removed the child from your home and hand delivered him to his mother. His mother over here gets a gold star for not having done so, that speaks to her being more concerned with her son than with money. It also show’s that despite what you are trying to do to her, she trusts you and knows that the boy will come to no harm under your care. A big star for mom, you however get none, your money grubbiness is unseemly and does not belong here or anywhere. The judge turned to the ex with a sigh and said sir get your head out of your wallet and start having some concern for your children instead, this nonsense is not healthy for the children involved.
I felt some of the tension start to ease as I have been awake since Sunday at 5 pm and it is now Tuesday at 1 am. And I can still not sleep you see. Because as soon as we left the office the mother figure ran over to the office to pick up the forms to get custody awarded to her and the father figure, so that they would get more money. So you see it is still not over this money grabbing they try to do, unfortunately for them they will have to face the same judge again. And he will probably shake his head and say I told you not to do it and instead see that you are here, once again to pester me with your pettiness and to attack the boy’s mother, who deserves respect from one and all.
So this is where I have been you see, lurking and visiting with misery.
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