I do mean my wife, as "she"..... she would have a cow with 1 small fish in a 70 gallon.
I don't think of the 38 gallon as a permanent home, not by any means. since this opinion appears more than shared I'm inclined to rethink it though.
and I've had to return fish to the not so local fish store in the past since they "mis-represented" a fish to her... she's not supposed to buy fish alone, but she has money and time to shop I guess.
I only want 1 oscar, but if I start off in a 70 gallon, I'd get something to go with it (one LFS here will take most mature fish anytime, for $ or trade, looking for breeders)
how long does this thing take to grow to say 8", I was under the impression it took a year or more (general internet stories/info) I'm not calling anyone out, I'm just not seeing where you guys are seeing the issue. break it down for me, I do want to do whats ultimately right. I am a "newb" to fish keeping, so take it easy on me.