Parents and Me (long rant)
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I think the answer is a job and a bank account. If you have a bank account you can get a debit card and use it for online purchases. This is what I do. I have no credit cards.
I do have a bank account, don't know anything about it though. My parents set it up for me and I've never directly used it. But I'll look into one of those fancy red-checking cards :]
Gross analogy : /
Thanks
Holy crap, I wish there were a local club around here, but I live in basically podunk south georgia. Nobody here keeps fish, unless they're in little bowls.
A year, but I think I'll go the debit card way.
Eh, I think I'll do the visa debit thing. The red card. Everyone I know has one, better jump on the bandwagon!
Option 1 is good for quick solutions, but I think I might just go for me using a check card.
My parents would curse me out, and have me out on my butt if I did Option 2. Better yet, lets call it Option Number Dumb
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Is your girlfriend's family ok with you using a prepaid Visa to order stuff online and getting it shipped to her house, since your parents don't want stuff shipped to your address? It might be worth asking your girlfriend about I guess.
Circumventing your parents and their "ways" is asking for trouble. If you have shown fiscal responsibility, openly talk to them about your own checking account and how it will teach you better on how to handle and budget your money. (If you walk around broke all the time then you do need to learn.) If they refuse to accept the "new ways", arguments will only make them dig in deeper.
If your grades are up, go to the library and check out books on planted tanks or aquariums and read them. Share some of these readings with your parents. Who knows, if it comes from a book maybe they will be more open to reason. For online information, go to University of Fla to support your position. Coming from a University may help.
Good luck!
If your grades are up, go to the library and check out books on planted tanks or aquariums and read them. Share some of these readings with your parents. Who knows, if it comes from a book maybe they will be more open to reason. For online information, go to University of Fla to support your position. Coming from a University may help.
Good luck!
I completely agree that going behind your parents' back will only make things worse if/when they find out - that's not necessarily what I meant. The issue that it seemed your parents are most concerned about is (and I may have read that wrong) privacy and/or having items shipped to your house. If that is their main issue, then maybe they won't have a problem with you receiving items at a different address. As long as you check with both sets of parents, it's a thought.
And for the record, IMHO your parents should be happy that you are spending your money on a hobby that you are passionate about and successful with; my parents would have been happy about that when I was in high school rather than the crap I wasted money on back then. Oh wait, college was even worse.
Just try to get along with them to the best of your ability, and in the meantime show them that you can be responsible (which it sounds like you have done, earning money from odd jobs). Other than that, the only thing you can really do is wait until you are 18 and you get your own place. Even a college dorm will often let you have a small tank in your room.
Wow I really feel for you. My husband dislikes my fish hobby and always rolls his eyes if I buy anything for it.
It's a shame your parents are not being supportive. I got my love for fish keeping from my dad and it was always fun helping him with the tanks/ponds. Anyway I agree with the above posts use your checking account and order stuff online with a debit card. It will also show them you are responsible with money and they may treat you more like an adult.
It's a shame your parents are not being supportive. I got my love for fish keeping from my dad and it was always fun helping him with the tanks/ponds. Anyway I agree with the above posts use your checking account and order stuff online with a debit card. It will also show them you are responsible with money and they may treat you more like an adult.
My parents have usually been supportive of all of my random hobbies. My mom used to really be into fishkeeping so she is actually very excited about my new fish set-up. Luckily I am 21 and out of the house so regardless it's not a problem. My boyfriend, on the other hand, doesn't understand my hobby at all and is always trying to talk me out of it. It can be really frustrating. I'm worried because he's moving in with me and I won't have as much room for all my planned fish ideas! Haha.
I've had a debit card since I was 13, all you need is a checking account and usually as long as it has a Visa or Mastercard logo on it you can use it for online transactions. Good luck, and no worries, eventually your parents will come around. I actually appreciate them waaaay more now that I am out on my own in the real world.
Luckily I am 21 and out of the house so regardless it's not a problem. My boyfriend, on the other hand, doesn't understand my hobby at all and is always trying to talk me out of it. It can be really frustrating. I'm worried because he's moving in with me and I won't have as much room for all my planned fish ideas! Haha.I've had a debit card since I was 13, all you need is a checking account and usually as long as it has a Visa or Mastercard logo on it you can use it for online transactions.
Good luck, and no worries, eventually your parents will come around. I actually appreciate them waaaay more now that I am out on my own in the real world.