It sounds fine if you like the way it looks & it may look different in the tank.
The too sharp 20 grit I saw was big & very pointy & poked small holes in the heavy duty plastce bags. Pool sand needs to allow water to flow through it & trap particulates without clogging. It doesn't compact.
If sand is too sharp for sand sifters I think they won't sift it, same with diggers but bottom dwellers don't get much choice, JMO. Maybe that's why my kuhlis don't dig but I don't think #0 is too sharp, I think it's because the food doesn't go down into it, just sits on top for the most part.