First of all, if you're using a domestic water softener stop using it for the tank. If you're not, then use sodium bicarbonate (baking soda) to raise the KH to 4-5 (I don't like using crushed coral in the filter because it raises GH as well). If you go that route, you'll need to add it at every water change. You can calculate the required amount but suck it and see is easier.