Really needs some advice :(

Send your dad a link to this page, he'll know you are trying to do the right thing.
 
Tell!!!
Also just to let you know, because you are asking means that you know the correct answer.
Be strong. Good Luck.
 
i, too like slappys suggestion. however... this is your problem to deal with. nobody here knows the logistics of your family, what's possible in what situation, nor how this might affect your relationships inside your family. you know how you need to deal with this situation better than any of us. the only thing i can say is don't ruin your relationship with one to save grace for the other. your brother will probably be around long after your dad's gone and may just be the only thing you have left one day.

do what you gotta do, but do it with love and good intentions... not to get yourself out of trouble for what your brother did.

good luck, bally... being between family members is never a good place.
 
I agree with fish n chips, you should tell your dad. He might be on the
road to who knows what. I don't have an addictive personality but my sister did.
He's young and your father can still do something for him,tell.
 
Am I the only one here who thinks there may be a whole slew of overreaction going around? A 19 year old who can still get by on 2 airplane bottles of any liquor is far from someone who has a problem. Heck, I'd go so far as to say that most 19yo kids have had far more experience under their belt than that. If you want to tell your dad, do it knowing that you're doing it to save your own skin. This talk of saving your brother from walking down the wrong path sounds like a lot of moral posturing and overly melodramatic judgment to me. I was a hellion in high school, but by the time I got to college, most of it was out of my system, and I continue to have a healthy and balanced relationship with intoxicating substances (if you don't believe this is possible, that's another thread entirely). Some of my friends on the other hand, came from entirely sheltered backgrounds, and crashed and burned pretty hard with all their new freedom. People learn best from their own mistakes. Let your bro figure it out for himself. Pleeeeeze, 2 airplane bottles is a far cry from a drinking problem.

I for one, have to agree with the others who suggested you speak to your brother before going to your dad. Giving him the chance to fess up himself absolves you of possibly having to rat him out, and lets him make his own decisions. Talk it out with him, don't go behind his back and snitch. I for one, would never have sold out my brother unless it was absolutely necessary for his health and safety. 2 airplane bottles sounds more like a sheltered but curious kid than someone on a full on bender of self destruction.
 
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Bally, I feel for you and you are in a very tough spot here. Yes, you have to tell your Dad as you do not want to lose his trust or go through what will happen if you don't. I do agree with the others about talking to your brother first, and try to get him to fess up. Maybe realizing what will happen to you and how much it will hurt you, will be enough to make him "man up". If he wont, your only choice is to tell.
 
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