I agree with you entirely, it's my husband I have to convince. Maybe if I put it to him that way he might see it in a different light. I will also have him talk to someone at the aquarium store and maybe they can convince him it's not such a bad life for a fish. It's not like we are going to feed the fish to a turtle or something. I think he still feels really bad that we lost so many fish so quickly. He originally thought that since we had the killer filter and a big tank and would do regular water changes and check the ammonia, nitrite and nitrate every few days, the rest would take care of itself and we wouldn't lose any fish. About 25 years ago when he had another aquarium he only had 4 or 5 big fish, Oscar's, silver dollar, stuff like that in the tank and he NEVER EVER checked the ammonia, nitrite or nitrate and he would only do water changes when the filter started running slow. Somehow or other the fish actually lived quite a few years and he had no outbreaks of any illnesses. The only reason we lost the fish was because my brother didn't know anything about aquarium, thought the heater was to hot and shut off everything while we were on vacation. That about killed my husband, he was VERY attached to those fish and decided he didn't want to start all over again, so we have never had an aquarium until now.