okay, here we go. my step-son came to live with us a few years ago when his first mom gave him away. we had never heard of him before this happened so he was quite a surprise. when she gave him up they took him and told her they were going to put him up for adoption for her(along with three of his siblings) and needed his fathers permission. so then they phoned here and asked us if we were okay with that and if we wanted to see him. so we met him and ended up taking him in because i couldn't live with knowing that my kids would have a brother out there they didn't know about, even if we did just find out about him ourselves and i knew we could give him a way better home than he was coming from anyways. so for all this time we have been struggling with him. he was 2 when he got here and couldn't say anything other than 'car' and 'cookie'. we soon found out that he had a lot of undiagnosed special needs and have brought him to zillions of appointments with specialists, worked with behaviour management to help him get through some things, like destroying everything he touches and always hitting himself to the point of bruising his face, to stealing and crying all the time for no apparent reason. so now we know he has fetal alcohol syndrome with drug effects and autism and we have a long road ahead of us. he is supposed to start school in a couple weeks and we went everywhere trying to get him a birth certificate but since we never filed for 'full custody' of him(didn't know we needed to) and his birth mother filled out his birth registration with father unknown we couldn't get one. we tried to do everything we could including speaking to the mp and the super-intendant at the school board to get around having to talk to his birth mother to get one. so time is running out quick and after three weeks of search we found her. we asked her if she had his birth certificate and she didn't but she agreed to order him one. this was last week. now, keep in mind this woman has been addicted to drugs and alcohol forever and GAVE her kids AWAY thinking they would be adopted to strangers and never see them again.... so today we get a knock on the door from CAS saying that the birth mother has filed for CUSTODY of him and that she is going to be coming to pick him up for a visit in the near future and we have NO CHOICE but to let her. they are also saying crap like 'people make mistakes' and 'everyone changes' and 'she has a good chance'.... so i'm left asking WTF??? he was 18 months old last time she saw him and he's almost 5 now. he doesn't remember her. he has no idea who she is. for frig sakes she was working the streets when i first met her while she was pregnant with him(right before i started dating bf).. why does she have the right to come in here and get involved in his life after purposely giving him away? i'm pretty upset....... anyways. that's my rant. sorry for dropping it on you guys but i had to complain to someone and well, your them.
