The orange coloration is about the only physical aspect that separates the males from females. What you might consider doing is getting a group of 3-4 young pearls (2" or so in size) to grow out and see which are females. The remaining pearls can be returned, and this is more plausible if you get the fish from a privately owned dealer, not a chain store. Private dealers are more flexible and are more willing to take in fish, esp. if the fish were orig. purchased from them. Just tell the owner of the store you go to that you're wanting to get a small group of pearls in hopes of getting certain genders, and that you plan on returning the remaining individuals, and they may comply with this plan. An alternative is to try and find larger pearls (3" and up) whose gender is more obvious.