It is very common for a female to have bristles. If the bristles do not fork at the top they are either still quite young or possibly female. Sorry I forget the anatomical name for it. It is also common for females to have less bristles than a male. The fact they fight is not indication of sex. Plecos are not overly fond of others of their own species regardless of sex. They will share a cave only briefly to spawn, then it's each to their own cave.