Would you stop being friends with someone...

I've done it, and would do it again.

There's a big difference between using and abusing drugs. Your friend is trying to equate the two. The best you can do is be there for your friend, and try to help them make the right decision. If they make the wrong one, you have to evaluate for yourself what to do, whether to cut your losses and move on, or try to salvage what remains.

Read Jbradts post again. and again.
 
I wouldn't stop being their friend, I'd just stop hanging out with them as much. ;)
 
if you cant beat'em, join'em..........jk. give them a chance to stop, and if not that forget'em. i gave my friend some time and he quit after just a little while.
 
as long as they dont force you to do drugs or dont hang out with you cuz you dont do drugs or force you to do things against your will i dont see why cant you be there friends. i understand your trying to help them but its their life its their choice. theres so much you can only do. all my friends do some kind of drugs. but i sitll hang out with them because they dont force me to do anything and they respect me and dont categorize me. you should know who are your true friends or not. just cuz they do drugs its silly to judge them base on that.
 
I agree with the above. I understand what you mean and can relate to those type of situations. I have had to put my foot down and get to the point of almost chewing out friends for acting that way around a group of sober people trying to just hang out. It may not have been the best way to handle the problem but they definitely ask if its okay when I am around now. When it comes down to it, you really have to acknowledge that you have no control over their choice. I'm not going to let a habit like that get in the way of the friendship, and if they truly care about your relationship they will not let their choice ruin it either. If it bothers you to the point where you cannot stand being around them, you may have to rethink your friendship for the time being. But I would not throw in the towel that easily. Talk with your friends and see if you can get your message across that you do not enjoy your time together anymore or something to that effect (not the fact that they are "flushing their lives down the toilet"). Again, if they really care they will not let it get in the way.
 
jpappy789 said:
I agree with the above. I understand what you mean and can relate to those type of situations. I have had to put my foot down and get to the point of almost chewing out friends for acting that way around a group of sober people trying to just hang out. It may not have been the best way to handle the problem but they definitely ask if its okay when I am around now. When it comes down to it, you really have to acknowledge that you have no control over their choice. I'm not going to let a habit like that get in the way of the friendship, and if they truly care about your relationship they will not let their choice ruin it either. If it bothers you to the point where you cannot stand being around them, you may have to rethink your friendship for the time being. But I would not throw in the towel that easily. Talk with your friends and see if you can get your message across that you do not enjoy your time together anymore or something to that effect (not the fact that they are "flushing their lives down the toilet"). Again, if they really care they will not let it get in the way.
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:thumbsup: Well said.
 
Anyone using recreational drugs is likely going to bring down innocent ppl that are simply friends and in the wrong place at the wrong time. You can stay friends all you want, but you have to be aware you run the risk of being associated with the drug using populace.

Yes, I would quit hanging with a person that used drugs since I don't and won't. I have enough trouble taking care of me without running the risk of adding more problems. Why ask for problems?
 
Interesting thread Liz.

After reading the thread I have to offer one more thing for consideration.

What do you guys think my friend Keith(who is now my brother in law because he married my little sister) thought when he was along for some recreational smokage ( because I had some very clean supply lines) and I brought out the hardware (big metal things that shoot hot lead). I won't go into details but suffice it to say, he very quickly distanced himself from me because of the depth to which my recreation had gone! TRULY A SUCKY THING BECAUSE 5 YEARS OF MISSED FRIENDSHIP IS A HIGH COST TO PAY!!!(AS VERY FEW PEOPLE ACTUALLY KNEW HOW FAR MY RABBIT HOLE HAD BEEN DUG)

I must offer forth 2 things for you which I hope will give you a insightful direction to take, and please by all means share them with your friend.

1. BAD COMPANY CORRUPTS GOOD CHARACTER!!
This being said, I would have to say at utmost cost distance yourself from a person who has become a habitual drug user to heavy drug user. As it will eventually wear you down and you will either fall prey to it, or you will be caught in the cross fire of bad happenings that will come from that choice of lifestyle. I will not ask what kind of drug you are speaking of unless I read it in the thread, yet, I am sure that to keep company with people who are engaged in such activity will only bring harbringer of bad tidings.

2.NEVER TRY TO SWIM OUT TO RESCUE A DROWING PERSON, UNLESS YOU CAN KNOCK THEM OUT COLD AND BRING THEM IN TO SAFTEY, BECAUSE THEY WILL PUT YOU UNDER IN AN ATTEMPT TO STAY AFLOAT!

By this, I would mean. Do not abandon the person, do not treat them like a pariah rather offer them the life preserver but do not fall into the trap of thinking you can be that life preserver for in the end they will put you down and they will still go down! Let them know that you are there if they wish to get out of the cesspool they have so foolishly decided to swim in.

Now the person may scoff if they were to read this or if you tell them what I have said. But tell them that the person who has offered you the above 2 pieces of advice is well versed enough of that world to truly understand this song(so much to the point that I did not want to be damned if you know what I mean)

EDIT I do not agree with the website this youtube vid supports, but, the website will truly show why one should not agree.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GN6eTXA0VlI

I will but say this. If I could but go back I would at the drop of hat. I have seen things, done things and done things to others that I would give the world to have back. Yet, since that is not possible I will give the world to keep others from wandering down that path to the briarpatch when I get the chance to try!
 
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Thanks for all your sharing, guys. It's not so much that I am trying to change them, nikond. It's just that it hurts me to see them going through that, and they don't understand that or validate my feelings regarding that, so I simply rethink my friendship. To be honest, this applies to all my friends who are using drugs recreationally. It's hard, knowing what drugs did to me psychologically that I am still paying for. I spent a year in jail and the mental hospital last year(that's why I wasn't around), and let me tell you. that pales in comparison of how horrible the year of my life was after i overdosed, until I got on the right med combination. And I know I will go right back to that awfule state of mind, if I stop taking my meds. And knowing that, it just eats me up inside that someone who knows about that and "cares about me" still wants to do drugs...
 
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