Really needs some advice :(

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Ballyhoo

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So I was packing for my spring break and last month for my 21st I got 10 airplane bottles and haven't drank any. Because I have a very untrustworthy brother ( he had pot in the house and stole 800$ from my parents ) my dad wanted to count the bottles and know exactly how many are in the house. I got the bottles to pack for spring break next week and when I took them out there are only 6.... I went to his room and found 2 empties. My dad is a VERY strict person when it comes to rules. The rules for alcohol in the house are 1. he has to know about all of it and 2. I have to tell him if I have any. I will be in DEEP trouble if I don't follow those two rules, he said he'd take my ID, phone, computer, car etc...
My brother is currently begging me, bribing me, and blackmailing me to not tell. I have to tell my dad about this, I can't risk the trouble that "he'll never find out".....
My brother has offered to replace it all, and not do it again but I really don't trust him....

I just don't know what to do. I used to be the bad kid and since moving home I'm trying to be better. If I was still the old kid I was I would have not said anything but I want to be better, I want to grow up....


//rant
sorry this is so rambly, I'm just really upset and I don't know what to do. I mean I do know what I have to do, but it's tearing me up. :(
 
Ya gotta tell your dad. If you bail your bro out he'll never learn. He took the bottles so he's gotta face the consequences. Believe me, coming from someone who partied wayyy too much a few years ago in high school and early years of college, the only thing that works is facing the consequences of the choices we've made.

Isn't your dad gonna find out anyways? He's gonna count the bottles and you can't take the rap for it.

How old is your bro by the way?
 
hage0245 said:
Ya gotta tell your dad. If you bail your bro out he'll never learn. He took the bottles so he's gotta face the consequences. Believe me, coming from someone who partied wayyy too much a few years ago in high school and early years of college, the only thing that works is facing the consequences of the choices we've made.

Isn't your dad gonna find out anyways? He's gonna count the bottles and you can't take the rap for it.

How old is your bro by the way?
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he probably already knows and is waiting for me to take them for spring break to spring the "how come you didn't tell me they were gone?" I can see that happening, and he's 19
 
Yeah, you gotta tell. The last thing you wanna do when you're living it at your dad's house is lose his trust, especially since you mentioned you kinda have a past of making the wrong choices. Telling the truth would be a sign of respect to your dad, and it would probably make you feel better and hopefully teach your brother a lesson.
 
hage0245 said:
Yeah, you gotta tell. The last thing you wanna do when you're living it at your dad's house is lose his trust, especially since you mentioned you kinda have a past of making the wrong choices. Telling the truth would be a sign of respect to your dad, and it would probably make you feel better and hopefully teach your brother a lesson.
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Totally EXCELLENT advice!! My sentiments exactly!! I feel for your brother but he doesn't care about you and what's going to happen to you, when your Dad finds those bottles missing! I had an older brother AND an older sister, both like that and they got me into more trouble for things I didn't do and then laughed at me when mom punished me. I still can't get over it and I'm in my 50's now, LOL!
 
You definitely have to tell your father. Not only for the trust factor, but also for your brother. He is showing signs that he is on a path for future issues. It might start out as occasional binge drinking or sneaking a drink here or there, but it can quickly escalate to point of addiction. Speaking up now is a win win situation. Your brother might be ticked at you for a time but he will get over it. You owe it to yourself, your father and your brother also to say something sooner than later.

* This is coming from someone who has there own issues with drinking and looking back I wonder how things would be different had someone spoken up. It would have saved me a lot of trouble that I brought upon myself.
 
It's not your job to clean up after the bad choices your brother makes, especially when it could get you into trouble. He's putting you in a completely unfair position.

I think that if I were in that situation, I would avoid the issue until it was brought up by dad on the off chance that it wouldn't be. But when it comes down to it, once asked about it, I'd have to rat my brother out. However, I'd really need to know more about your dad before I could actually recommend such a thing. He sounds like the kind of guy that would be as angry that you kept it from him as he would be that your brother did it in the first place. In which case, you need to tell him ASAP. In any event, I'm sure your brother is well aware of how your father is, and will understand, even if it takes him a little time to forgive you.

*This is coming from someone who also did their share of partying back in the day, but never developed any addictive tendencies towards alcohol or marijuana. I used to do both of them, alot! Today, I'm 32, I drink once or twice a month at best, and no longer smoke pot at all. Though I will say that overall, it did have a negative impact on my life.
 
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In your situation I'd tell my father about it, as I was moving out myself.
 
hage0245 said:
Yeah, you gotta tell. The last thing you wanna do when you're living it at your dad's house is lose his trust, especially since you mentioned you kinda have a past of making the wrong choices. Telling the truth would be a sign of respect to your dad, and it would probably make you feel better and hopefully teach your brother a lesson.
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I completely agree with this post.
 
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